FRIENDS?????????
This morning I told my hubby how I feel about our friends at the campground. I can NEVER be "friends" with them. We have nothing in common and two of the women are as boring as a wall. I just can’t stand it anymore. I will no longer try to be "close." They just have different values and NO MOTIVATION to do anything besides shopping for bargains and returning everything. I have more important things to do. Last night sealed the deal for me. Some of the women agreed to go to New York next Fall. One won’t even consider it. She eats absolutely nothing. Everyone at least tasted the anniversary cake last night. She sits with her winter coat on, never smiling and doesn’t eat. What the hell is she trying to prove? Is weighing three pounds so important? Maybe if she ate something she would smile. Her hubby is no better. Actually he eats everything but never smiles. I use to think he was a happy go lucky fellow but over the last few years I have seen that he is a complainer and miserable – never cracks a smile. One of the women here is so arrogant and thinks she knows it all. That’s it for her too. I use to think we could be friends but it’s been many years and I realize I don’t even want to try.
That’s it for complaining. I will just stick to myself at the campground and not worry about being with any friends. It’s just NOT going to happen.
I have known I am not a PEOPLE person. I don’t have the tolerance and or patience for people and their idiosyncrasies. I am judjmental(SP??) and critical so I am better off alone.
I know I am far from perfect so if I stay alone I won’t bother anyone and they won’t bother me.
So I think I’ll have a nap. Then I’ll do my exercise.
I find it harder and harder to make and keep friends as I get older. I am glad I have a really good friend in NYC. I also love my own complany – being alone works well for me.
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RYN: Yeah, six weeks is how long they said to wait. I’m still not healed, or maybe it’s going to feel like that from now on. I hope not. I’m already like that. I just don’t like people that don’t want to live life and be happy. It’s like they just gave up on it. Life is too short to just give up. Any moment can be like a person JUST started.
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shallow people can be difficult to cope with…. hugs P
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You make some really good points. If someone cares to enjoy your company and make themselves enjoyable, ok — if not OK too!
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I don’t have super close friends. I would find that woman difficult to deal with. Celebrating with a bit of cake is social…unless she has allergies.
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This is JUST one opinion. Sometimse if we try to understand or imagine why a person is one way , we might get a different outlook. The lady you describe –coat on, not eating anything, etc, surely sounds like either –a victime of domestic violence or a rape victim. What if? so what if? Friends, new friends, do not owe anyone anything. What we mean is that friends can not be ‘everything’ to everyone or to even one person. Everyone is imperfect. When seeking perfection or when seeking friends without idiosyncracies, we will seek long and hard and will find no friends. Everyone has problems but some hide theirs better than others. For example, if you meet a ‘perfect ‘ friend or a friend without idiosyncracies that does not mean that you will not have a major problem with said friend. (lol, ie. mass murderers are always described as nice quiet men, meanwhile, they are animals). okay . so there we go rambling. All we mean to say is … hecks….. keep on meeting people, perhaps one day you will meet a friend that you have lots in common with or a friend that doesn’t bother you
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To the Anon noter above me. Yes, the woman wearing the coat does sound a classic victim, and it is awful. Until she decides to reach for help, no one can help her. That said, Ginger deserves happiness too and not to be put in a situation where she will be miserable constantly. She’s not been happy, and she’s not communicated. She has stopped her cycle of things that make her unhappy when it comes to these women and I am proud of her.
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