CALM ME DOWN
I am so UPSET or should I say upset. The reason????? My friend who is going out with my other friend. They both lost their spouses a few months ago. They have been TIGHT ever since. Well I haven’t spoken to her for awhile so thought it was time. I was upset that she hadn’t called me but I decided to call her. Well she was in MONTREAL for FIVE DAYS! WHY didn’t she call me??????? She knows my number! All of a sudden I just can’t stand her. She will be in Florida right in the next building all winter. She is coming on the cruise with us. She might not want to be with me because she knows/knew that I was upset that she chased him so soon after he lost his wife. To a large extent I am so over it – not completely of course but I have come to accept it. Anyhow I am trying my best to have an open mind and stay in touch. We are friends since university. However she is in Montreal often and NEVER calls.
I better go swimming. Have a great day. While I swim I will forget her!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Maybe she’s not thinking about calling people because she is just busy enjoying the things she’s doing. It happens! Or perhaps she senses, or sensed, your disapproval. It’s not any fun being around people whom you feel disapprove of what you do. Try to not be upset about it. hugs, Nicky
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Swimming is a good thing to take frustration out on as well as calm you down in a meditative way. X
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Go swimming and do not worry. Have a good day.
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Swimming sounds like a good idea. Did you ask her why she didn’t call you? It’s hard to know for sure what kind of marriages the two of them had before their spouses died. Maybe they’ve been lonely for years and not letting on that there were problems? Even if everything was fine, perhaps she’s still in the throes of new love, where everything falls by the wayside for awhile?
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Oh, also I agree with your first noter… maybe she was afraid of your continuing disapproval and wanted to avoid that tension? It’s worth putting in the effort to salvage the friendship…!
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Sometimes when you go someplace others fill your time slots so you do not always get to see the people you’d like to see or do some of the things you’d like to do.
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I can feel your friend’s acctions have hurt you. I’m so sorry. It’s so difficult to feel disappointed with a friend’s actions and try and balance it with the love you have for her as your friend… I hope you were able to find some peace with your swimming. *hugs*
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