AGAIN AND AGAIN-edited*
I am so upset and frustrated and angry and I don’t know what to do or what to think. I am probably making a mountain out of a mole hill but I can’t be sure. Tomorrow hubby is starting to go with THAT WOMAN!!!!!! I keep thinking they are just golf partners. No somethiNG can develop if they see each other three times a week. They are still man and woman. NO! WHAT AM I WORRIED ABOUT?????????????? IF I HAVE TO LIVE ALONE I WILL. WHAT’S THE BIG DEAL? I HAVE ALWAYS WANTED TO TRY LIVING ALONE. IS IT MY PRIDE THAT BOTHERS ME? IS IT THAT I DON’T REALLY WANT TO BE ALONE?
WHY IS THERE NO WAY TO CHANGE THE FONT ANYMORE?
I TRY TO BE BLASE ABOUT THE WHOLE THING.
I CAN’T SO WHAT DO I DO?
I DON’T WANT TO KEEP HARPING AT HIM BECAUSE THEN HE’LL HAVE A GOOD REASON TO LEAVE.
WOULD I CARE IF HE LEFT?
I WOULD HAVE TOTAL FREEDOM. FREEDOM TO DO WHAT I WANT.
FREEDOM TO NOT WORRY ABOUT WHAT HE IS UP TO.
FREEDOM TO HAVE MY OWN SPACE AND PAINT And mess to my heart’s content. SO WHY DO I LET IT BOTHER ME? HOW DO I GET OVER IT? SHOULD I? CAN I?
IT IS MAKING ME CRAZY EVEN THOUGH I DON’T WANT TO LET IT. AFTER ALL IH HE JUST FOIND A PARTNER TO PLAY GOLF WITH SO WHAT BUT WHY CAN’T HE ASL ONE OF HIS M,EN FRIENDS. I AM SURE ONE OF THEM WOULD BE AVAILABLE. I AM SURE ONE OF THEM WOULD BE AS GOOD AS HER.
DO I THREATEN HIM THAT I WILL LEAVE HIM IF HE PLAYS GOLF WITH HER?
SHOULD I JUST STOP WORRYING? HOW DO IT DO IT?
I WANT TO CHECK HIS EMAIL BUT SO FAR I AM RESTRAINING MYSELF.
ANYHOW WE ARE EXPECTING COMPANY SO I BNETTER PUT ON A SMILE AND HAVE A GOOD TIME.
THANK YOU FOR READING MY COMPLAINTS AND WHINING AND …………………..
If it bothers you why don’t you just ask him point blank if he would rather be with her than you, you can tell if he is lying. Why torture yourself? If you can’t tolerate this behavior and he won’t change then leave his ass!
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Never make a threat you are not willing to follow thru. My first husband had an affair so I will venture no advice.
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What would your monetary situation be if you split? At a certain age, that becomes crucial.
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it is possible for males and females to have platonic friendships….I have several of them with men I know. But if this bothers you so much why don’t you simply take up golf yourself and go along with them? A shared interest can help bond a relationship nicely. Ask hubby to give you lessons, but don’t let him think its to stop him playing golf with her…be sincere in your enthusiasm for thegame and maybe he will like playing with you even more. Just a thought. If you can’t beat ’em, join ’em. hugs p
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I hear the frustration and pain in your words. You are in my thoughts and prayers
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I don’t think you can on like this. You should have a very frank conversation with him. Find out what’s going on and let him know how much it upsets you. Good luck.
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You have obviously talked with him about this. Can you talk with her? I think its odd for a woman to want to be friends with my husband but not me – I’d be upset and suspect something then too. If a golf buddy is all she or he are interested in, you’ll know soon enough.
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so. she’s not interested in being friends with you? that right there would be a huge red flag for me. you’re gonna have to decide how much more of this you can deal with. if you decide you can’t tolerate it, leave. if you can deal with her being friends with your hubby and not you, okay but if you can’t… i think you need a very serious ‘come to Jesus’ talk with your hubby. but, don’t threaten toleave if you really don’t want to cause he just may take you up on the threat. as for taking up golf… maybe find you a guy friend and have him teach you so the 4 of you can play golf together!! there’s no good answer for this problem. it sounds like he’s gonna play golf with her no matter how you feel. what you have to decide is how you feel about that. my prayers for you. take care,
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It bothers me that both of them know it bothers you but they continue to play golf together. Would a trial separation be possible. Can he go live at one of your other residences?
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Maybe he just likes her as a golf partner better than his men friends. My husband, Joe, says he prefers talking with women to talking with men, but he only likes their friendship. Why don’t you try to work it so that you and he are doing something together once a week, that you both enjoy? I think that if you were getting enough quality time with him, you would not be as bothered by the time he spends with her. Is there something you both like that you could have a weekly date to do together? hugs, Nicky
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We were talking in our Bible study tonight on the meaning of the Hebrew word of Shalom and what it really means besides, God’s peace go with you. Do the Jewish people use this word and if so what meaning does it have?
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This would have me feeling the same way that you do. I guess I’m old-fashioned because I don’t think married men should have female friends or vice versa. If she’s not a friend of both of you then she should take a hike. Just my opinion.
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