A NERVOUS WRECK-ok

Hubby and I went to town yesterday morning. On the way back he almost crashed into the back of another car. Luckily he slammed on the brakes fast enough. I am just so nervous driving with him lately. I don’t know what to do. I once told him that I was very nervous and he wasn’t as good as a driver as he was. I don’t know what the solution is. We both didn’t say a word after. I don’t know if I should bring it up or not. Maybe I’ll wait until the next time…………..I feel that I have no one to talk to – to ask advice. I hate to burden the kids. I have one or two friends I could say something to but for now I will sit tight and see what develops. I am glad I came up in my own car this weekend. I may do it from now on. Mostly because hubby likes to come Thursdays and I rather come Fridays.
My sons came up yesterday with my grandson. We had a fun day. My grandson was so wired. My sons on the other hand probably went to bed in the middle of the night so were half dead. We had a barbecue for supper and then the men went to play TEXAS HOLD EM and I took my grandson to the park. In the evening I played MahJongg with some friends and they are coming back this morning so I left the game out.
We have a cleaning lady that comes every week. She just charges 15 and since hubby NEVER wants to help clean up we feel it is well worth it. It annoys me though because she puts everything from the counters in cupboards, vacuums and leaves the chairs on the table. It is so annoying. I wrote her a note to leave everything where it is. I don’t think she’ll be happy but WHY does she have to put our shoes in the hamper. I know it is easier for her to vacuum but I would rather she just vacuum around the stupid shoes. This cleaning lady just put up a double wide trailer! I guess there is no shortage of money.
So time for breakfast. I already cleaned up the mess from my grandson. It’s like a tornado went through the place. He is so sweet though!
Then friends are coming again for Mah Jongg.(I think I already told you this) Not sure what we will do after. Maybe just go home………… It looks like another dull, rainy day.

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June 3, 2007

Thanks for your notes. My feeling is you can’t ever trust the cheating person again–I found out I couldn’t in my own case and got out. Take your own car whenever possible and pray he doesn’t have an accident.

June 3, 2007

If he’s not a safe driver, I think you have to tell him exactly how you feel about it. He might prefer to be in denial about it, but you almost have to at least try to get the message across. And by all means, don’t ride with him if you feel unsafe. He can either let you do the driving when you’re together or you can drive your own car….but you shouldn’t feel obliged to risk your life just to let him feel he’s a good driver! hugs, Weesprite

My Dad had the same issue with driving and we didn’t want him to feel about, so we made sure that whenever it came to driving someone else was available. Either one of us kids would “conveniently” stop by just when Dad was going somewhere, or Mom would offer to drive so Dad could “see the sights” since he never got the chance because he was always driving. After several months, Dad sort of got used to it and didn’t expect to drive anywhere anymore. I don’t know if ever caught on or not, but it worked. And he still feels like he has his freedom. Blessings to you and your family.