Todays Writing Influences
Bullying (inspired by Rosealist, hope I spelled that right and sorry if I didn’t)
This is something I’ve wanted to touch on a little bit. I could argue I was bullied by my parents. In reality though that’s not valid, though I did take my survival mechanism from that situation and applied it to my surroundings after moving. Yes, I take some slack from people who moved more than once "what’s your problem? I am more outgoing and moved pretty often."
The only year I proved to stick out from a crowd was 7th grade. I was in classes with these two girls, one was a taller-than-average Native American girl and her sidekick was a shorter gal that was caucasian. They loved to point out how horribly I dressed and then there was one boy that pointed out I was immitating him (specifically his style of shoe). It was the year of Personal Appearance I guess. Anyway, I reacted initially by wearing a Red zip-up hoodie everyday. That would hide all the 2nd hand, mom-chosen clothes underneath (to clarify, she chose them but I did dress myself, thank you). I did that for 2/3rds of the school year. Somewhere around that time my consciousness broke away from a more directed type of existance I became more independent. I invested myself more fully into the work I did, and at home saved my allowance to buy clothes and shoes I wanted to wear. At the time, I really wanted Nikes with lots of swooshes. I had a pair of shoes with 7 each. My attempts were successful in that I was getting compliments from "popular" girls about my wardrobe that day, and the bullies backed-off. At that time though, they were under the threat of being expelled due to poor grades and the Native American one was expelled. Her left-behind sidekick was much more docile after that.
By the time 8th grade rolled around, I was liberated from 2nd hand shopping and able to get things I wanted much to the dismay of my mom. I had a unique style; Carpenter Jeans or Cargo Khaki pants with a T-shirt that was white, black, grey, or navy. I reverted back in a way to try and go unnoticed and it really worked. However, I stopped wearing jackets for the most part except light windbreakers. I wore the same black Adidas one for several years.
Aside from my own personal story of bullying, which pales in comparison to Twin (she wore glasses, has a slightly upturned nose, naturally curly hair, and uniquely pointed eyebrows)… I know as a parent I will do my best to combat what bullying will likely occur. I really can’t get into specifics though because I don’t have children yet and anything I do will be tailored to their personality.
"Personal Reference" – inspired by Solivagant
I would skip most of this if I were you… it will be pretty boring, uninteresting, and unrelevant for anyone that isn’t me. Its a lot of information to sort through (displaying the vagueries, inconsistencies and difficulty in Personality indicators of any sort. I sorted through a lot of this stuff over the span of a few years, age 19 – 22. It’s come to my mind not only because of an entry, but with my 10-card birthday tarot reading looming tomorrow.
This is cut and paste stuff from Wikipedia regarding personality indicators of varying types. I’d recommend taking a look at the tests if you haven’t take them. I did a entry awhile back regarding MBTI and a lot of my friends here already know what their indicators are (and if not, do a Google search for Similar Minds Type Test)
MBTI (Myers Briggs Type Indicator)
- I – Introversion preferred to extraversion: INTJs tend to be quiet and reserved. They generally prefer interacting with a few close friends rather than a wide circle of acquaintances, and they expend energy in social situations (whereas extraverts gain energy).[8]
- N – Intuition preferred to sensing: INTJs tend to be more abstract than concrete. They focus their attention on the big picture rather than the details and on future possibilities rather than immediate realities.[9]
- T – Thinking preferred to feeling: INTJs tend to value objective criteria above personal preference. When making decisions they generally give more weight to logic than to social considerations.[10]
- J – Judgment preferred to perception: INTJs tend to plan their activities and make decisions early. They derive a sense of control through predictability, which to perceptive types may seem limiting.[11]
Keirsey Temprament Sorter:
- Artisans are concrete and pragmatic. Seeking stimulation and virtuosity, they are concerned with making an impact. Their greatest strength is tactics. They excel at troubleshooting, agility, and the manipulation of tools, instruments, and equipment.[2] The two roles are as follows:
- Operators are the directive (proactive) Artisans. Their most developed intelligence operation is expediting. The attentive Crafters and the expressive Promoters are the two role variants.
- Entertainers are the informative (reactive) Artisans. Their most developed intelligence operation is improvising. The attentive Composers and the expressive Performers are the two role variants
More, regarding more New-Age type indicators:
Astrology
Sun in Gemini
(The Sun is in Gemini from approximately May 21 to June 20, depending on the year).
With the Sun in Gemini, the urge for self-expression is strong. These natives are often just as interested in collecting information as they are in sharing it. Curious to a fault, Geminis have a finger in every pie.
Solar Geminis are flexible and changeable people. Their ability to adapt quickly to new situations generally gains them plenty of friends and social contacts. Usually quite clever and witty, Geminis enjoy intellectual conversations and they are e
asily bored if they are not getting enough mental stimulation.
Often quite adept at fitting in with others, Geminis easily adopt the moods of those around them. They are friends to people from all walks of life, and are not easily intimidated. Their ability to detach themselves can make Geminis very objective and observant, but a little difficult to get close to. Although they often have many friends, intimacy doesn’t come as easily to Solar Geminis.
It can be difficult to know what Gemini really feels at any given moment. They are often very impressionable and scattered. There is usually a nervous air to Geminis that can make more personal characters a little uneasy. It is not always intuitive to trust Geminis to be loyal or to keep secrets.
Geminis often flit about, moving quickly and keeping busy every step of the way. Many people with this position of the Sun have gained quite a bit of knowledge in their lifetimes, but they don’t often possess specialized knowledge. This is because Geminis have relatively short attention spans. Restlessness is especially common with this position of the Sun.
Usually quite affable, Geminis enjoy the "light" side of life. This tendency to take things lightly makes them quite pleasing to be around; but it can be maddening to people seeking support on the deeper issues in life.
Geminis are both interesting and interested. Their wit can be dazzling and their changeability dizzying. At the very least, Geminis will seldom bore you.
Moon in Pisces
Lunar Pisceans are known to be dreamy and not always in touch with reality. However, though these people may not always show real-world savvy in day-to-day, practical affairs, they make up for this with remarkable intuition. They can put themselves in anybody’s shoes with extreme ease. On the plus side, this endows them with remarkable compassion and love. The down side with this apparent ability to break down boundaries is that these people can easily lose themselves in the suffering of others.
Their sense of humor is delightfully silly and a bit odd. These are perceptive souls who seem to be in touch with all the nuances and subtleties of human nature. Often this comes through in a strong sense of humor that is more of the receptive kind than the type of sense of humor that would make people the "life of the party". It’s generally pretty easy to get them giggling.
Moon in Pisces people may get tagged as "spaced out", but there’s a lot more to them than meets the eye. They feel things out, and rely on their intuition. It just doesn’t feel right for them to do otherwise. Their dreaminess can mean plenty of moments of absent-mindedness. These times of oblivion can land them in all sorts of predicaments with others who can too easily misunderstand these complex souls. Without plenty of space and time to daydream, Pisces Moons easily get overloaded with life. Give them room to be alone with themselves, and they’re generally able to take on the world—even if their style when they do so is not always conventional or understandable.
Generally considered soft-hearted and sweet, Lunar Pisceans care about others and are easily touched by human suffering. This tendency gains them the reputation as suckers for sob stories. Although this may sometimes be true, many Lunar Pisceans learn, in their lifetimes, how to discern between sincerity and manipulation. Still, they definitely do have plenty of soft corners.
There’s a delightful accepting side to Moon in Pisces that is sometimes mistaken for weakness. Pisces is the twelfth and last sign of the zodiac, and thus carries with it a little of each sign of the zodiac. As a result, they see themselves reflected in the behavior of others, giving them seemingly boundless compassion. Since the Moon represents our instinctive nature, Moon in Pisces seems to know how things feel without actual experience. For example, they may have never had sex, but seem to know all about it — even, or especially, the subtleties of it. The ones that aren’t too shy make awesome actors and actresses. This ability to empathize even in the absence of experience gives them an open mind and heart. Most long to express this through writing, music (both listening and making), poetry, and art—in fact, the happiest people with this position do just that.
Though some are doormats, most Pisces Moon people instinctively know when they’re due for a much-needed recharge. It’s at these times that they retreat from the world (and its harsh realities) if only to gather strength to face everything and everyone again. Solitude is important to them, but they also need people, so their retreats will usually be short-lived. Pisces Moon individuals believe; and, let’s face it, the world needs Piscean leaps of faith.
Ascendant/Rising in Libra
Abstract on Ascendant/Rising signs in Astrology:
The Ascendant (or rising sign) is often considered the mask one wears when meeting others. Perhaps it is most aptly thought of as the automatic responses to one’s environment. The Ascendant shows our natural defenses and how we cope with day-to-day issues. The energies of the sign and condition of the Ascendant are most overt and obvious to others. The Ascendant shows an individual’s first, natural reaction to new people and situations.
Libra Ascendant
Everybody seems to like Libra Ascendant natives. They just come across as nice, pleasant, and fair. Look a little closer at their lives, and these nice people may have had quite a few problems in their relationships. Some of them have had a string of relationships, and it can be hard to imagine why! These natives attract others to them effortlessly. Besides, they simply don’t know what to do with themselves without a significant other.
Libra rising generally appear to be smoothing everything over. They have charming smiles, a gentle approach with others, and an easygoing image. Even if they were not endowed with good looks, they are attractive. Most pay a lot of attention to their personal appearance — the colors they wear, their hair, the way they walk.
Libra rising people can be enormously persuasive, although they will almost always use a "soft sell" approach when they want to win others over, which is all of the time! A tendency to pass the buck and keep up that "nice guy/gal" image are their worst qualities. However, they can make excellent mediators and will generally be the first to accommodate you.
Libra rising natives are usually attracted to competent, active partners. Their relationships are often characterized by bickering or competitiveness until they learn to drop their sweet image once in a while and to stop blaming their partners for everything that goes wrong. More on Libra Rising.
There was a note that the Ascendant is modified easily in regards to how you react to an environment. It’s always been easy to remember my planets up to Venus, because for me it and Mercury are in Taurus. What follows is what in details of having Venus (Libra’s ruling planet) in Taurus and how it influences y
our Ascendant/Rising:
Libra Rising and Venus in Taurus
Your ruling planet, Venus, is in the pleasure-loving sign of Taurus, which suggests that you magnetically attract whatever you want and need into your life, and that you influence the world through your considerable physical beauty, personal magnetism, or charm. You are truly a lover of beauty, harmony, comfort, and peace, and you can not flourish in an atmosphere of intense pressure or interpersonal conflict. Laziness, a disinclination to exert yourself, an avoiding conflict even when it is necessary and fruitful are potential pitfalls for you.
Considering Decans…
The first, Mercury decan of Gemini (or Gemini/Gemini, Gemini I) First decan Geminis are observers and curious seekers, always ready to be distracted by a marvelous scenery, an interesting thought or entertaining conversation. Typically intelligent in a rapid, logical and detached way, they are still sometimes at loss in applying their fine minds to deeper thought or powerful, systematic reasoning. These people can easily become the life of the party, and they share a great love of light social situations where the people are many and the demands are low. Many feel depressed about getting older, sort of a Peter Pan syndrome, and indeed do have an eternal youthfulness over them. The are perceptive and shrewd, but often emotionally shallow.
Numerology (is usually my least favorite reading, 5+2+4+1+9+8+4= 33, 3+3=6) from http://www.cafeastrology.com
Number 6
This is the peace lover. The number six is a loving, stable, and harmonious vibration. Ruled by Venus.
Keywords: compassionate, stable, family-loving, trustworthy, domesticated. If expressed negatively, superficial, jealous, possessive, unwilling to change.
Interesting that the native American girl was expelled. I was bullied hard core in junior high. People wrote nasty notes, called me ‘elephant’ and ‘thunder thighs’ out loud, and I was generally revered as an outcast. Years as years later, I reconnected with an old friend that stopped being friends with me during that painful time. She was/is still best friends with the worst bully of all, Merilee. Inevitably I hung out with Merilee through Sherri, and it was shocking how different she is now. She and I are now good friends, 4 years after reconnecting…. And she has told me stories of her life at that time. Her dad was cheating on her mom and suddenly left her, and their 5 kids. They had no money and had to live in a shelter. She acted out by bullying. She had to transfer to an alternative school because her grades were bad. I abhor bullying. Of course. But I think often it is a sign of a bigger problem.
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Very interesting entry. I was bullied at moments in my life while I was still going to school (which was only until the 5th grade), but it never last long. I was tended to get the upper hand before too long. The other kids rarely liked me, but I had all their parents wrapped around my fingers, so that usually settled things in my favor. In fact I often had the good fortune to be able to protect other kids from bullying and I did. The personality part is, of course, just fascinating. Thanks for sharing. And happy birthday (as it is now the 24th here)! I hope you have an awesome day. 🙂
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RYN: Well Happy Birthday! The Chinese zodiac is mostly determined by your birth year. If you were born in 1984, you’re a wood rat. I’ve never heard of the Feng Shui element/direction before. I’ll have to look that up.
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Where did you get your astrology readings? I’ve never seen a detailed report of my own, so I don’t know my moon, ascendant, decan, etc.
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Very interesting stuff here.
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Bullying sucks, many of my clients report being bullied in one way or another. And though schools are attempting to do more, the truth is all you can do for your children is teach them to cope and report it. As a parent we want nothing more than to protect them from that, unfortunately bullying isnt something that stops at school.
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and all the personality indicators are at best an approximation, but a darn good ones at that. But really, as you have said, personality is not necessarily static, though not as easily changeable as opinion.
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ryn: I LOVE loooking at places. It’s the only part of moving I actually do enjoy. I think I’m going to love this more because not only is it for our house, but there isn’t any stress from having to rush. Our lease isn’t up until November so we have lots of time to take our time finding the right place. I hate everything else about moving though.
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Btw, i know you play disc golf. In the process of having my handicap assigned, i discovered that there are handicap tracker apps. You may already know this but if you have a smart phone, go to market and type in “handicap tracker” and you’ll get a few free apps to track your scores and check your progress..
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