Ugh
So my daughter is 11. She’s super well-behaved, kind, all of that good stuff. But omg – she never wants to do anyyyything fun. It’s so annoying. I try to suggest doing super simple things like a face mask, a makeup session, painting, playing a game – no matter what it is, she says no. She would rather watch Netflix or something. And then when I get fed up with it, I get treated like I’m the bad guy because I point out that she’s being lazy or boring.
I have no idea of what to do, but I’m really tired of it.
Expect more sullenness as she continues into puberty. Perhaps, suggest you take her and one of her friends to do something fun. Or, simply say we’re going to (something fun) and go.
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Tween years, such fun! In a few short years you’re going to have a life expert on your hands that you can always go to for advice because she’s going to know everything
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She is turning into a teenager with raging sulky hormones that thinks she is a grown up and doesn’t want to hang out with mum so often. One thing I will advise is never critisise. You say you told her she is lazy and boring. . That to a a teen is critisism which your parent should not do. If she is interested in anything even if it’s a TV show just becasue you don’t like it doesn’t mean she can’t. I know I sound harsh but trust me from a grown woman who was a teen and had a mother that was critical of things it hurts and chips away at your confidence. Try to find something you both like to do and arrange a date, if you’re not sure what she is interested in, talk to her and see. Point things out that you would think are fun and see how she reacts to them. At 11 my daughter was into the latest bands. Listen to what music she plays and play it in the back ground as a subliminal way of connecting. See if she mentions a particular track that will be a starting point for music conversation. Check out the latest fashions and if money allows take her shopping and have lunch while you’re out. There are various ways to start a conversation and learn what she likes and dislikes but if you critisise too much then she will not talk to you about serious issues when she needs to. Teenage years are hard on us the parents trying to figure them out but they are even harder on the kids. Remember what you were like and how you felt at that age, what you were interested in, how did your mum treat you and work on that as a starting point.
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