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So, Heather was in Las Vegas celebrating her brother’s 21st birthday a few weekends ago and I made the decision to surprise her by showing up in Vegas for the celebration without her knowledge. It worked out pretty great – she was definitely very genuinely surprised, even though she totally could have figured out that I was going if she put some pieces of my life together. Like the fact that she knew that I went into work early for no apparent reason the day of the trip, when I never ever would go into work early for no reason.

But, yeah, Vegas was fun and life is good. I would say that things are as good with Heather as they’ve ever been. While it’s true we still have our disagreements (as evidenced in her entry here), I think this is the first time in many years that I don’t feel like our relationship is incredibly vulnerable. Really, for years now I’ve written about how Heather and I have this really intimate relationship with one another, but also how it’s likely to end sooner or later. It’s always felt very precarious, even when things were going well. And that isn’t really the case now.

She is moving to Georgia, to live with me, early next year. We have talked and planned on this for a long time, but I think it’s really only now starting to settle for me that this really is going to happen. It’s no longer this vague notion that may or may not actually happen – it’s happening, soon. Pretty much the only thing holding it back at this point is her getting her nursing license in Georgia and then getting a job in Georgia.

But yes, it’s true, the culmination of our long, messy, love story is soon to arrive – Matt and Heather will actually live together as boyfriend and girlfriend. Granted, this isn’t the end of the story just yet – there is still room for things to go disastrously and for her to begrudgingly move back to California a few months later. But, even if there is no guarantee of success, at least we are finally going somewhere.

And, although things could go disastrously, I rather suspect that they won’t. Yes, I’ll go on record on this: despite all the years that I’ve written to the contrary, I think Matt and Heather might end up being a permanent thing. It seems weird for me to write that, having spent all these years reminding myself that the two of us could never work in the long term. Because, at this point, despite it all, I think we are.

That said, my diary may soon turn into a Things My Girlfriend and I Argue About diary, in the spirit of Mil Millington. Seriously, why is it such a big deal if you leave a cupboard open? Aren’t you just going to open it later anyway?

 

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August 26, 2012

Then why even have a cupboard door Matt? DON’T BE RIDICULOUS. This is not sarcasm. I am 100% serious. ~I’ll be

August 26, 2012

I’m excited to read how things will be! I’m becoming a snoop 😀 I wish you both the best beginning of the rest of your life together 🙂

August 26, 2012

Haha. I absentmindedly leave cupboards open all the time too. My wife just grins at me and closes them. She makes up for it by leaving the lights on all the time.

August 26, 2012

RYN about my political entries: well, yes, it’s not necessary a bad thing that Romney is a “good” businessman, in the sense that he earned it a lot of money using any means necessary. However, I don’t see how his experience in avoiding paying taxes and making lots of money translates to running the country. As president, taxes aren’t necessary a bad thing, and outsourcing jobs overseas is.

I love all of this. But, really, Matt. If you value Heather you won’t leave things open when they are meant to be shut.

Matt, I am so happy that you and Heather will be moving in together! I think that Heather can hang tough and won’t leave you after her first couple of months there! As for leaving cupboards, I try not leave mines open all the time, but, what can I say? It happens!!! Rupert (Jon) leaves them open sometimes, too. I don’t really have complaints about that as more as he leaves the toilet seat up! (I know, that maybe was too much information).

August 27, 2012

That’s so awesome for you both! I hope it works out now that you’ve gone on record and everything. But like you said, at least you’re trying. I would find it more vulnerable and worrying if you *didn’t* have arguments at all…but be careful with the doors. That will be super crucial for about 2.5 months. 😉

RYN: I agree, I agree so much. I mean. It’s just. Bullshtt. Gah. Thanks for your note, Matt Daddy.

August 27, 2012

Haha, I think it’s important you mention that your kitchen isn’t very big, so cupboard doors left open are a hazard.

Ryn: yes I know, wish I could update from mmy phone. I am currently without internet access 🙁 if yo have FB you can add me. I have pictures and the story in my notes: Andrea Kowalewski Orlando or annj1981@sbcglobal.net

Adam and I had a website akin to Mil Millington’s. And Thom now has a Twitter feed of weird/offensive stuff I say. Ha. I cannot explain enough how happy I am that you guys are moving in together. To have read both of you for so long and to see you find this resolution of sorts, but also a new beginning, is incredible to me. You’re both amazing.

August 29, 2012

Moving in a such a big and fantastic step for you two, that is so exciting! I can’t wait to hear about it, its been so long in the coming. And just for the record, I’m rooting for you two.

August 30, 2012

> Heather and I Excellent. The transcontinental thing is not tenable. Davo

August 30, 2012

> Outsourcing All of your arguments are plausible (libertarian arguments always are), but I don’t necessarily find them practicable or convincing. Yes, sometimes a big, energized majority of citizens can temporarily effect a change in some corporate behavior, but it’s the exception rather than the rule. Corporations are better at propaganda and economic leverage and have no reason whatsoever to have regard for an individual or small group of people. They utterly fail to protect common resources like the air and water. (Yes, in theory, they can be sued, but they have 1000 times the lawyers.) But I digress… Back to the topic, the question was “Is outsourcing jobs overseas bad for the United States?” I subjectively construe the last phrase fairly broadly to consist of a mix of things, including “quality of life.” Economic efficiency is a factor, but not necessarily a major one.

August 30, 2012

> Arguing against outsourcing to me is like arguing that we should all farm for ourselves. … It’s not clear to me why this principle does not apply on a national scale. Because it puts the US worker in a race to the bottom with people with people who have much less to lose. Do we really want to be there? > I think the biggest problem is that it is very easy to see the costs of outsourcing but not nearly as easy to see the benefits. … decreased consumer prices and more efficiently produced goods. As Kimber says, I think it’s better for the US that domestic workers have good, reasonably stable jobs than that there be cheaper junk at the Big Box stores.

August 30, 2012

> Moreover, resources are freed up that can be used in other industries. I’d argue that the reason we have the incredible innovation that we do is at least partially due to the fact that we free up a huge part of our labor force by benefiting from outsourcing and technology. In theory, maybe. But in practice, the result is that more and more people have to resort to part-time, low-paid,service industry jobs. Change is inevitable, but real people are not as adaptable as some corporate MBA’s cost-cutting schemes are. I’m not against increased international trade. I think it’s a good thing. I’m not against trying to help raise the boats of everyone in the world, just not all at once. I just don’t think that the American worker should be asked to directly compete with workers in some third-world country. The cultures and economies are too different. Davo

September 4, 2012

It’s about damn time! But I think her entries would be much more interesting than yours…there’s got to be a fair amount of culture shock when you move from Northern California to Hicksville, USA. 🙂

September 8, 2012

Let’s make love again soon.

September 18, 2012

RYN: Frankly., that’s cheating.

Write already, it’s been a month.

^ What anon said. Matt Scott!!!!