No Time for Romance
My romantic life is still completely lacking, but I fail to notice it for the most part because I’m so bloody busy. UGA’s masters program has essentially turned into a full-time job for me, as I’ve pretty much been working 8-hour days – including on weekends! I got on campus today at 11:00 AM and was working on a group project there until 7:45 this evening, though we did take a long lunch break. But yes, it’s absolutely insane – I don’t know if I literally worked half as much on academics at GC&SU. But, hopefully this will help me pass the CPA exam and actually be decent at my profession and such.
Anyway, my intention was to talk about how I have no romantic life, and, further, how it’s hardly bothering me at all because I’m so busy. I’m currently debating whether it’s a good thing that I’m not really noticing my complete lack of romantic progression. On one hand, obviously, it’s good that I’m not obsessively stressing about it, but, at the same time, I’m slightly concerned that I’m going to graduate from UGA in May and realize that I’m now a 23-year-old virgin moving into the real world, and I don’t even have any romantic prospects. Granted, I probably shouldn’t focus on strictly romantic prospects – I haven’t exactly developed any lifelong bonds yet either, and I’m already severely short of them too.
The fact that I talk online so much is probably a problem, but not in the way that you might think. It’s not a problem that I spend so much time talking online because of it cutting into my social time, as it honestly cuts more into my film-viewing or book-reading time than anything. However, I think that socializing online so much alters my perspective of how real-life relationships develop. Basically, online friendships develop much more rapidly in the sense that people are generally more frank from the beginning and there’s little superficial “small-talk” and the like. And even this is heightened with people I meet from OD (which, I suppose, is what 99% of my online interaction is comprised of), since I’m generally reading detailed accounts of each person’s lives as part of our interaction together. Essentially, I think I forget that people’s overall personality isn’t necessarily as easy to immediately discern in real-life interaction as it is on OD or online. Which is a roundabout way of saying that I don’t know if I really give potential friends/lovers a fair chance to prove themselves to me as interesting people before I write them off.
Of course, it could also be a roundabout way of saying that you guys are so awesome that it sets the bar too high for people I meet in person. You decide.
We definitely are totally awesome. But you’re absolutely right. People in Real Life are so afraid of what everyone else thinks! I don’t know. I’m tired. ~I’ll be
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Just stopping by to say hi 🙂 ::HUGS:: ♥
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Re: lesbian sex: Are you kidding? You know I would have told you if that had happened! Also I have a sort aversion to women, being heterosexual and all, so it’s not likely that anything like that WILL ever happen. I’m kind of bewildered as to why she would say something like that unless she was joking… *bewilderment*
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Relationships are so much work. I’ve heard.
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It is a lot quicker to make friends on this thing, but there’s a lot less to them. I think it’s like – yeah you sometimes get past the superficial small talk to the marginally less superficial frank talk quicker, but then there is nowhere to go past that. And almost all of online talk is complete small talk anyway, which is why i only reply to 1/4 of my noters.
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Love the last 2 sentences. Of course we are awesome. You get to read the most intimate details of our lives when u are JUST meeting us. You get better insight
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I’m sure I’ve left you a million notes about how someone who quietly does your laundry because you’re asleep in a knackered heap on the sofa without telling you knows you better than anyone you’ve told your “life story” to. It’s so easy to think someone cares about you online but there’s no test of it, you know? It’s all superficial, clean, pretty, safe, nothing is tested.
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Of course it is different. It’s a lot easier to spill your guts to a computer and people that you have never met and probably never will meet, than someone that knows you. When you are building a relationship face to face people don’t open up the same way because we’re all scared. It takes a lot longer to trust others’ with your thoughts and secrets.
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matty, as i always say. i know you are in love with me, and admitting it is the first step to personal happiness.
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One of my guy friends was so concerned about leaving college and being at a statistical disadvantage at finding a girlfriend so he posted an ad on a dating website. It actually worked out well for him, but I think he’s the exception to the rule. Romantic developments tend to happen when least expected. Like the saying goes, a watched pot never boils.
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It’s true. I am just that awesome.
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Excuse me, I do believe we’ve developed a life-long bond, I’ll have you know.
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ryn yes. p.s. I haven’t even read this yet. So there.
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