Complexities

As I’ve clearly established over the last month, coping with a break-up is hard to do. Still, it’s really the little things that sometimes pose the biggest dilemmas.

Such as, I currently have a drawer filled with all of Heather’s letters to me, along with a picture of her beside my bed, and a folder on my computer storing all our conversations and e-mails. So, what do I do with all this stuff now?! I can’t decide if it’d be overly dramatic to rid myself of it or unhealthily clinging to what’s gone if I keep everything as it is. And don’t even get me started on the complexities of whether I should take her off of my top friends on myspace! It’s endless. I guess you just never understand the intricacies involved with a relationship until you’re in one.

And, psh, I only said I’d stop whining about Heather, not stop talking about her . . .

Miss Britt

Yes, I tend to just delete things and throw them away. Goes along with my whole “change” thing, and hating having excess stuff. So I don’t know if it’s necessarily healthy or not to hold on to that stuff, at least for a while. But if you still have that stuff a few years from now, thats when it gets a little unhealthy.

Narciso

well myspace sucks. but what i did was take everything and give it to a friend for safekeeping.

Jenni!

October 10, 2006

When I broke up with my ex, after dating for 4 years I had so much stuff around my room that reminded me of him. Instead of making an irrational decision while I was emotional, I threw everything into a box and it’s in my closet. One day, I will go through it and decide if there are some things that I do want to keep and what I want to throw away. Just an idea. Good luck!

Keep it, but box it up and put it away for now. Then when the break up is not so raw, look through it and decide if there is anything you would want to keep. you do not have the distance needed for this right now.

michael.

Yeah well, try living with someone you’ve broken up with… their junk everywhere and the smell of them and the we’re-not-sleeping-together-any-more conversations and the awkward sofa-bed sleeping arrangements! Have done that a couple of times. I never really collected things, though.

when justin and i had our tiffs, i would look unhealthily over our saved conversations for hours. it helped me. … still think you should fight for her.

Sleeping on it

I keep everything in a box. You never know if you want it later…as for myspace, my ex just got moved down a few people…not off the top because we are still friends. Go based on friendship…where does she fit? Good luck

You got to hear everything else, I get to keep some pride. Natalie had a number of very good and very specific reasons, the fact that she still really likes sleeping with me is a bit irrelevant (or it will be now we’re not under the same roof).

I know what you mean. My bf and I broke up 3 weeks ago and I still haven’t dealt with all that stuff. I guess I should probably delete the pictures of us on my cell phone…*sigh*…never thought of that.