A Little While Longer

So, I’m at my parents’ farm for the holiday weekend. I usually only manage to make it down here on holiday weekends when I can actually stay long enough for the 3-hour trek to really be worthwhile. Whenever I’m here I have this omnipresent feeling following me that I should be cherishing my days here because they come so rarely, but somehow I don’t feel like I really ever do.  I’m also not sure how one actively cherishes something or how that would even feel, but anyway.

Heather is visiting me again in August – we are taking a trip to Charleston for a few days as well as hanging out in Atlanta, including taking in a Braves-Giants baseball game. We are both marvelously excited about the trip and lost in our excitement is how we still don’t really know what we’re doing with each other in the big scheme of things. Not that we have for a while, but it’s become more of an issue in my mind lately.

For one I’ve now stopped dating other girls because it was causing complications between Heather and me. My partial rationalization is that the dating wasn’t really fair to the girls I was dating since I’m still so absorbed with Heather, but I don’t know that that’s the real reason either. The truth of it is I was made aware that if I kept dating I might lose Heather and so I stopped. The greater truth is that I doubt the dating was ever going anywhere (partially because I am so stuck on Heather), but I think I personally felt more comfortable with the Heather situation when I was dating. Because then at least I had the illusion that I wasn’t just at a standstill waiting for things to work out between the two of us, which is where I feel like I’ve landed now.

I know I have to make a decision. We have to. We have to decide to either go in this for real, all the way, or move on, for real, all the way. The problem is neither of us is really in a place in our lives where we are willing to make the move (both literally and figuratively) necessary to make the relationship work. And neither of us has the desire or strength to shut the door on it either.

And so we keep doing what we’re doing, for a little while longer.

 

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I have to say, this is the most wonderful romantic story. At the same time, my heart goes out to you. <3

July 3, 2011

When one or both of you reaches the point where you just can’t stay in this weird relationship limbo anymore, then something will change. Until then, as long as you both prefer status quo to worst case scenario, you’ll be stuck in this. I must say, I think you’re moving in the direction of a change only because you’ve always seemed more “content” with the situation.

July 3, 2011

And PS, it’s been forever since I saw Crimes & Misdemeanors, but I did enjoy that one too!

I agree with IceGurlie advice, as long as you both are comfortable with this kind of “relationship” things will be the same and maybe it’s the best you can do, if you’re not in position of taking such a bid step. I personally think you did well in stop dating other girls. Obviously you like more Heather than you’d ever like those girls.

July 4, 2011

I don’t like this. But sometimes love doesn’t make any sense and makes us do crazy things, I guess. Good luck. ~I’ll be

July 4, 2011

She’s becoming your “James” in many ways. I have so much tp update about him and I but I haven’t had the time to put it into words….Good luck being Matt and Heather…it is worth it sometimes to just wait it out.

July 5, 2011

Don’t you hate that “right person, wrong time” feeling? Why does it allllwaaays work out that way?

July 5, 2011

Visiting home makes me feel so young, and i reminisce about the past& the friends i’m not in touch with anymore.I love how exciting traveling/visiting with someone you want to spend time with is, like the world is at your feet and you can accomplish anything with them.I have a person, my matt is your heather.Itll never work but its something that youve wanted more than you have ever wanted anythin

July 7, 2011

I’m from ATL. Go braves :))

July 11, 2011

RYN: of course, they were the most fun to answer. =]

RYN: I couldn’t agree with you more…Thank you though =) I’m so sorry I’ve been a HORRIBLE noter. I think you made a good call re: Heather…Definitely not fair to lead on other girls (such a manly and honorable thing to do). I agree a decision should be made, but those usually require LOTS of time…So take your time and be sure to absorb all aspects…”Forever” seems like a long time when in reality, it’s only a second…Eric and I were in the same position for quite some time (3+ years)…Eventually it does work out (one way or another).

July 14, 2011

I agree with you about the amount of randomness to jury trial outcomes. That’s certainly true, independent of whether there is bias one way or another. I think even judges are often surprised. It causes fear and a lack of trust in the system, which is a bad thing. Davo

Oh well. This is just for some days or weeks. I feel like I’m just saying stupid things, you know? And… I don’t really have anything to say. I have the feeling that people read my life just to be nice, because I can’t be funny/interesting anymore. Half year ago I had a lot to say but now… Words are missing. I really need to take a break. But I’ll return, I swear. Don’t “UnBookmark” me 🙂

July 18, 2011

RYN: thank you, your note was really sweet. No we went to high school together. i’ve known him since eighth grade.

Almost all the surveys are stupid 😀 And more stupid than them it’s me, because I take them all 😀 😀 Actually yes. I always doubted of the existence of Osama Bin Laden… And I sincerely think that the land in the moon was a strategy to intimidate the URSS.

Well, we’ll never know, right? 🙂

I think that the US goverment needed to prove themselves stronger and more advanced. And for that, they could be able to do anything. I always ask to myself: Have you ever been into space? Then how do you know if what they say it’s true? It’s not that I *believe* 100% in the conspiracy theory, but I think it’s plausible. What if all that documentation is a lie? I’ve worked ina place where things weren’t what they seemed to be. And I had to stay quiet and confirm the lie. I know I can’t compare my situation with those hundreds of people but… I really think it’s possible. The secret services manage a lot of information, and all is confidential. Why mere citizens would get it? And why the goverment would expose all the info when we know that secrecy is part of a succeeded plan? That makes me think that they wanted to pass an image of something that it wasn’t real. As I said, we’ll never know. I always doubt of everything. “Never believe in everything that people tell you, never believe in half of the things that you see”

*hundreds of thousands

I’m sorry but.. I just can’t still bite it. I can find many inventive ways to explain many many things. And I’m not a frog because frogs can’t type in a computer, frogs can’t know 4 languages, either have or invent a life like mine, etc… 🙂 Now, if you ask yourself if I can be someone else, a 40 year old dude, bald and with lack of sex… well that’s more plausible lmao!! But then Ishould start believing that Matt is just a character in someone elses head and OD would be a fraud and I would be very disappointed with that… So I think there’s no point in doubting of who I am lol 🙂 Have a nice day!

We must agree in disagree. And that’s all. I certainly disagree with your second paragraph… But, I’m not going to comment. Biting my tongue 🙂

– I think that people are attracted to conspiracy theories because they like the idea of being a part of a special network that knows “the real truth.” – Well, yes, maybe some people are, and it’s definitely an exciting idea. But other people – and I would like to include myself in this secong group – are just trying to remain free from influences. It’s not that I don’t believe in goverment… I don’t believe in anything!! It’s like an eternal philosophical question: what can people believe or not to believe? Is the truth relative? Conspiracy theories are the proof that we have a brain to think. To question something is in human’s nature. It’s not only to “try to belong to a group of people”, but the eternal quest of the truth! I don’t know if I explain myself well. Maybe I’m confusing you more.

*croak croak* Maybe I am! 😀 I understand your point of view and I think this talk is very interesting. I’d like to answer now but it’s 1:15 a.m. here and I need to sleep. I’ll answer you tomorrow. Good night! (Or good rest of day, I assume is earlier there lol)

I agree about OD. But you know what? I don’t care, I’m going to complain and say whatever I want to say. Even if I contradict myself or even if I curse someone. I don’t care. It’s my diary. If someone doesn’t like, then they should stop reading it. Right? Well, I don’t take Smy because I’d have to take care of him like I do here. And I would like to go alone to Finland, you know? I’d liketo go alone because there’re many many things that I want to do there. If Smy comes… I know this sounds selfish, but if Smy comes I will not have the life that I want to have. Selfish. I am selfish. My dog has given me so much and I’m thinking about leaving him. I mean, he would saty with my parents but… he would feel very sad if I disappear again from his life. I’m so fucking selfish.

*stay

Continuing our talk, when you talk about “conventional wisdom can be possibly right”, I agree. But not in this matter. I think we can learn from other people’s experiences and get influenced by them in many ways. But mostly when it’s about personal experiences… Not when it’s about conspiracy theories. And for the record, I always assume that one idea can be lie… but also cosider it can be true. I never close the door to any of them. What happens is that balances gets more inclined to one side than the other.

Well, if I think about it with your perspective, I have to admit that it makes sense and that I could believe in the landing. But… I’m still reticent. Because, I’ve never been with someone who has experienced tha landing, so it’s really hard for me to believe that those people are saying the truth. My knowledge about it it’s mostly by magazines, documentaries and books.

Eek! Davo liiiiiikes you. You were his whole entry!

He did :):) Thank you very much!! ^.^

Alexandra R bothers the frickin’ hell out of me. I swear, all she does all day everyday is note male readers. She is like a smarter version of Yoursfornow, but with an accent or something. I don’t know how to explain it. ANYWAYS, Matt, I go home in 1 week. I miss you. xoxo. Oh. and this heather thing… ain’t gonna work until both of you make a compromise and move somewhere neutral.

August 5, 2011

r. thank you so much 🙂

alone voice or fractured life or whatever the fuck his name is left me a note, so I went to his diary so I could block it, and I see that his age is 26. LMAO i am pretty sure he was like at least 4 years older than me the last time i let him read me. THE GUY IS ALWAYS 26!!!! LOL!!!!! oh god, what a loser. I blocked him.

August 7, 2011

have I ever mentioned how many freakin’ notes you get per entry? Seriously sir, its ridiculous.

Oh well, that makes sense and it’s good for OD. But in my current situation I can’t allow myself to spend money in something that I won’t use that much. But someday I’ll really get the “lifetime membership”, I just have to save money for that first ahah 😀 OD rocks. I love this place.