Relationship Advice? Please..?
Alright so I need advice. Doug and I have been dating for almost 5 months. We live an hour and 15 minutes apart. I’m a flight attendant so I have a lot more days off than most people…infact next month I have 16 days off. Thats half the month! I may pick up a day here or there…but for the most part I will half nearly half the month off. I spend all my off days at Doug’s house. I sit around the house…take his dog for walks, iron his shirts, and cook him dinner…but I still have a lot of down time…even when I sleep til noon.
I’m thinking of getting a part time job over by Doug at a Gym as a greeter or whatever…which will give me a free gym membership and also give me some extra money….a break from Flying (which I get burnt out on) and something to do when I’m over there….
Is it too soon to get a job even a part time job by him? I mean….does that put stress on the relationship? We are pretty in love and talk about marriage and stuff but obviously nothing is set in stone…and having a job there would mean I would have to be there. Anyways….I guess I’m asking if this is too fast too soon?
What do you think?
Why not go ahead and get the gym membership or the job? If you and Doug don’t end up working out, it’s not like you are committed to the job. You can quit it; it was just something extra anyway, and you can get another job closer to your own home. Right now you’re with Doug, though, so I say, base your decision on what’s happening in your life right now.
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Do you always have half the month off? If not, then there is no point getting a second job (to be close to him or not is beside the point), unless you really need the money. As for being too close, you’re there 80% of your down time, why would you even need to wonder if it’s too soon? Seems like a moot point to me.
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I think this is a conversation you need to have with Doug and not us. You can’t make this decision alone and his input and how he feels about not only the job, but the effect it would have on the terms of the relationship will definitely help you to make the right decision. Take care
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I think you’re overthinking this slightly, Kay. So you get a job near him…I don’t think that’s anything he would be worried about. Now if you got a job at the same company Doug works for, thats one thing. But getting a job at a gym nearby…hell, that’s just a clever way of getting a free membership and already being nearby him instead of having to drive over there. No downside there.
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