It Gets Better

As I sit here in front of my cozy fire, I reflect on the day’s odd events.  Yes, it gets better.

Bobby text messaged me off and on throughout the day yesterday.  Some messages were asking about a couple of things he realized he left, and some were talking about how much he already misses me.  I simply ignored the latter.  It’s not that I don’t care about him, but I don’t think it would be helpful to encourage him, either.  The messages tapered as the end of the day neared, but I received one final text around 8pm.  "I got smashed into!  I’m hurt!"

I was in the middle of doing laundry when the phone beeped, so I didn’t even read the message until ten minutes later.  I immediately responded.  When I didn’t hear back from him after another ten minutes, I sent a second text.  Still no response.  I waited an hour and tried to call.  His phone rang, but the voicemail picked up.  I left a message letting him know that I was worried and that he needed to contact me as soon as possible.

Around 10pm, our mutual friend in St. Louis, Thor, called.  He’s actually a closer friend to Bobby, but he’s been on my side of the entire situation.  Bobby was supposed to stop in St. Louis to stay the night with Thor, but he had not shown up.  Thor hadn’t talked to him, and I mentioned the text message that I had received earlier.  We talked for quite awhile, and Thor admitted that he wasn’t really worried.  He wondered if Bobby was simply trying to play on my sympathy.  He promised that if he heard from him or if he showed up, he would let me know.

I checked my phone first thing this morning, and nothing.  I decided to put Bobby out of my mind, and I began my work day.  Midmorning, Thor IMed me.  In his words, "I don’t want to break my word to Bobby, so please don’t tell him that I talked to you.  I’ll just put it this way, I’m not worried about him.  He’s just upset."  I didn’t push the issue, but I was starting to get irritated.  I’m glad that I didn’t lose any sleep last night over Bobby’s obnoxious behavior.

Shortly after I got home this afternoon, I receieved a text message from Bobby’s phone.  "This is Bobby’s father.  He has a concussion, 3 broken ribs, and I’m contacting everyone in his phone.  He has amnesia."  At this point, I’m completely confused.  If Bobby is so injured, how did he have the composure and ability to send me a text last night after the accident.  Hell, I don’t even know that there was an accident.  I immediately called Thor.  I asked if he had actually talked to Bobby, and he responded with, "Well, not really.  Why?"  When I told him about the message, he sounded as confused as I did.  I know that Thor has had contact with him.  He told me he’d try to get to the bottom of it and get back to me.  He hasn’t been able to get a hold of Bobby all evening.

I called my mom to explain the situation and ask her advice.  Before she had even heard the full story, she concluded exactly what Thor had suggested — that he was simply trying to play on my sympathy.  She mentioned some of the things that he said on Saturday night, and decided that this was his way of punishing me.  She took it upon herself to have her boyfriend, John, call Bobby’s phone just to see if he would answer.  He didn’t.  She told me to not give him what he wants — for this to get me down.

Um, all together, boys and girls.  Can we say psychotic?

In other news, the federal investigation for my security clearance is under way.  An investigator has been in every town that I’ve lived in and has talked to pretty much every person I’ve ever known.  Since David now lives in Pennsylvania, an investigator called this morning to get his number.  On my lunch break, I decided to give him a ring to let him know to expect the interview.  He didn’t answer, so I left a voicemail.  He immediately called back.  We had a fantastic conversation.  It was most comfortable talk we’ve had since he left in August of 2005.  We chatted about Christmas and New Years, laughed about mutual friends, and discussed possible topics for the interview.

Then he caught me off guard.  "So when do I get to come visit you in Colorado?"  I think I stammered over my words a bit, but I basically responded with, "Oh, I’d love for you to come visit.  It’s been a really long time, David, and it would be so good to see you."  He didn’t ask in a sarcastic tone, either.  It was a serious question, and I felt those damn butterflies stirring up once again.  How does he continue to do that to me?  After all this time, I’m still not over him.  We talked a bit longer about going skiing and snowboarding if he actually does find the time to fly in, and we ended the call.  "It was really good to talk to you.  I’ll talk to you again soon.  Only minutes after we got off the phone, the investigator called.  David rang again as soon as the interview was finished.  It was a short conversation.  We giggled over some of the silly questions, and I headed back to work with a smile on my face.

Another chapter has also been written in the Tammy and Jeremy saga.  As I’ve mentioned before, Tammy is closer with Jeremy’s stepmom than he is.  Apparently, Jeremy felt the need to confess a few things to Blanche in return for some advice.  Blanche, of course, spilled all the beans to Tammy.  The story goes that the girl in the CourtTV video is not the girl he was actually planning a life with.  Tammy and I both new that there were two different girls but that he only had an actual affair with one of them.  The mystery girl is now out of prison, and he’s involved in a full blown relationship with her.  Since Tammy kicked him out, that’s where he’s been staying.  Though Tammy already knows the full story, he’s still denying every bit of it to her face. 

Another interesting tidbit that Tammy added — he got a new phone a couple of days ago, and accidentally his old one in her car.  She, of course, looked through it.  He has both girls’ numbers saved in his contacts, and he’s been having hour long conversations with them both during the times he should be working.  Men.

Cheers,
Felina

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January 24, 2007

MEN! EXACTLY! Loves!!!!

January 24, 2007

WOW, i cannot believe that stuff with bobby.

SOC
January 24, 2007

This crap with Bobby: NUTCASE!

jesus, dude. this guy’s crazier than i originally thought, and that’s saying something. i’m glad you got to talk to david. and i really hope he’s able to come visit you. you need some normal, rational people in your life, if i may say so. heh. jeremy’s just a fucking idiot. seriously. what the hell does he think denying everything is going to do? does he honestly believe that she knows nothing? give me a break.

January 25, 2007

Wow…Bobby sounds like my Mom’s ex-husband Larry….Do play into his games….thats exactly what he wants.

January 25, 2007

that would confuse the heck out of me… Bobby needs to face facts and move on. So happy you had a great conversation with David- who knows.

January 25, 2007

He has reached that point where he will do ANYTHING to just get some kind of emotion out of you. Bobby = Crazy, party of one.

January 25, 2007

wow, that story with bobby sounds fishy. I really dont think that someone with a concussion and broken rebs would think about texting as soo as the crash happened.

January 25, 2007

I feel bad for Tammy.. what a loser she was with. As far as Bobby, he is really scary… take care of yourself please

January 25, 2007

Next time you talk to him you should try and explain to him…someday he will feel SO stupid for how he’s acting now. He’ll realize how dumb he was, and he’ll feel embarassed everytime he thinks about it. Just tell him you wish you knew how to tell him that he WILL get over this, over you. It’s how it always works! He’ll be fine, he just doesn’t know it yet. And if he keeps acting like this…

January 25, 2007

Well… he’ll always be ashamed of it. He’ll just feel stupid. And he should! Poor pitiful idiot… Good luck with the background investigation! Had to do that myself a couple years ago, and I hope yours is quick-tracked!

January 25, 2007

p.s.y.c.h.o!

January 25, 2007

that dude is trippy, glad he’s gone for your sake!

Every day you should wake up and say to yourself: “I’m SO glad I dodged that bullet!” I’m convinced that Penelope Cruize (sp?) says that everyday, and you should too. He’s a complete nutjob, and I’m so glad that you are safe now. But you should still keep a look out. He is not right, and he could be stalking around. I know that probably sounds crazy, but it happens. It’sfunny that you mentioned that prison bitch. My boyfriend and I were watching that when it aired. My initial reaction was that he was an idiot. But after looking at his wife, he’s an even bigger idiot. Both of you are better off without those assholes. I’m so glad I found you on the frontpage. I’ve never really read anyone off that thing that I really enjoyed and kept on my favorites list. You’re an amazing woman! 🙂

January 25, 2007

Wow Bobby really is a piece of work, I hope he starts to leave you alone.

RYN: The oatmeal? Pasty at best. 🙂

January 25, 2007

That is effing nuts that Bobby would lie to you like that! Lying to that degree is just unforgivable in my book. Glad you had a good convo with David! Feeling butterflies is always nice.

January 25, 2007

OMG…..you know its a good thing that you did get out of that relationship, he is CRAZY!!!!

RYN: Yeah, like you’re not gonna score with her. hehehe… (make sure you take pics!) 😉

January 25, 2007

I clicked on the message link to say something regarding the whole Bobby thing and found myself staring at the text window for a few minutes totally speechless. I am not buying any of what he is selling for one minute. Be safe please. While have never met and likely never will I do find myself concerned for you. R

January 25, 2007

oh my god… are you serious??? psychotic is only one word that comes to mind. i’m glad you’re not playing into his crazy behavior.

January 27, 2007

yeah, i watched the prison bitch clip and that guy is somethin’ else.What a shame for his kid and wife. And in the end for everyone involved. I really feel for Tammy but you all gave her great advice!And, Congrats, R~, on your freedom. You know, his cries of an accident and later calls from his father, just show how destructive he would have become with you, in person eventually. You’re so smart!!