I can’t win

I feel like no matter what I do I can never win! I’m constantly fighting with the people in my life for reasons I do not find right. Everyone is always telling me what I should do with my life and how I should be, but as soon as I make a suggestion Because I care and I want to help I get told I’m wrong! I’m tired of everyone controlling my life! Thinking they know what is best for me! Only I know what is best for me! Why can’t others see that. I am 35 years old I am not a child but sometimes I feel like I have to listen to please them! I am tired of being that person but I don’t know how to change it! I am me, I am great but how do I make others be ok with how I want to live my life?