settlement.. not..

 ok haven’t written about this yet either.. so here goes.. 

The last entry I thought would happen.. It didn’t.. That was mm a year ago I think.. 

The offer I accepted included 500 merino ewes..  Turned out that he had already sold them.. And the other 300 .. With lambs ‘at foot’.  He could have grown them out in 7 months and got top lamb prices (they were crossies) of over $100 a head. But no. He sold them. All. I said ok. (sigh) Just give me what you got for them then. He says ok but can’t find the paperwork. 4 months later he submits another offer.. Lower.. Of course..  I say I had accepted your previous offer but still waiting for the paperwork about how much you got for the sheep! O. He says no. I haven’t accepted his offer. Say whaa?? He gets his tax done but refuses to supply that information.. Ok. I give up. Driven into a corner I finally give into my solicitors advice to put in for a court date. 

That caused the interesting development of him suddenly deciding he needed to spend time with the boys under a court order. As neither of them had seen hide nor hair of him for over a year (and before that only at a distance – he couldn’t work out why they were so reluctant.. and confused at his very obvious attitude that he didn’t really want to spend any time with them either.. 

As he has been forcibly detained in the psych Ward twice he had to be had to find himself a supervisor who luckily was there to make sure the boys were safe..

anyway.. After a few of these failed attempts he goes back to court insisting on more time. He didn’t get it – only a change if arrangements.. Which made no difference at all. So now he just texts me to say he can’t come to his own court ordered visit times..  Once a fortnight.. 

Anyway.. He managed to delay a financial settlement for another year by doing all this crappy tactics things.. Which have of course cost a small fortune.. So the next court date isn’t until August and if (huge hoping on my side) a decision is made that will probably take until the wind of the year to be ‘ handed down’. 

In the meantime he is keeping all the income from the crops and sheep from the last three years. Well..  Keeping is probably the wrong word.. He has spent it on court and legal costs. My poor solicitor hasn’t had a cent from me and has had to get a job with a firm in the city who pay her wages.. He’s had three solicitors so far because no-one want to act for him despite how much he pays them. .. I think he’s run out if Friend and family support now too – coz they refusing to ‘ supervise’ him for the visits..  

I haven’t said that I want anything in particular four the settlement.. It can take any form of make up of assets as long as it is made to actually happen would be good!! 

But I do have concerns about how a Sale of assets will be facilitated if that is ordered to take place.. He’s obviously incapable and has pretty well trashed everything into a huge mess and he hunts me Off the property with violent threats if I try to touch anything there.. Even the misters things..  Sigh..  

But despite all this.. I’m good, fine, confident. But I do take good Care of myself too.. Have made sure to balance myself to keep my natural happiness and optimism ‘ on the top’. After all.. Can’t get more " first world problems" than Mine. Very lucky really to live how I do and how I have. ( and how I will) and I thank God every day for my health. Heart felt. Lol