Getting you caught up on my Son

I’ve been Tweeting and FBing about this as it happened over the past week, so I thought that I’d get you all caught up on the drama. It’s about son, school and graduation.

My son failed Algebra II… on purpose. He simply gave up on it because he wasn’t "getting it". I blew up and hit the ceiling and kicked him out of my house (he lives with his mom, so it was only for the evening).
- My son thought that I didn’t want to see him anymore, but I cleared that up yesterday
Because of my son getting written up for misbehavior, he lost his A+ scholarship money. It would’ve paid for the first 2 years of college…FREE.
- He and his mom have applied for a pell grant, and because she doesn’t make squat at her job, it looks like he might get it.
Because Algebra II isn’t a required class, and he has enough credits, he’ll graduate high school with the rest of his classmates this Sunday.
- Finals where Wednesday and Thursday of this week, so he’s essentually done with high school.
After graduation, the "gang" (friends and family) will be going out to dinner as per his request.
Because my son is 18 years old (a legal adult) and done with high school, I have terminated the practice of scheduled visitation that his mom and me arranged when he was 10 years old, when we divorced. Scheduled visitation is for little kids. He’s not a little kid.
- When he came over last night, I explained to him that we love him and he’s always welcome to visit us anytime that he wants, as long as "he" arranges it with us a head of time. (I don’t want Linda and I to be having wild monkey sex on our leather couches in the living room and have him walk right in unannounced)
Tune in next entry for the next exciting drama in, As the Diary Turns.

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Aint kids great? Good luck with the grant though

mingtree

May 14, 2010

I think you are being too hard on him, not very loving, and it saddens me for your son.

Belle.of.the.Ball

What I would have given to have college paid for…at least some of the time. Eh, kids (yes, a kid at 18), don’t “get it” until they have more experience in the real world and understand that it could have helped out A LOT. Such is life! At least he graduated 🙂 Have a great weekend!

Congratulations to your graduate! (and to you and his mom!) So that means your child support ends, right?

I guess the words you chose to use made me think you were too hard on him.-terminated, blew up, hit the roof, and the fact that he thought you didn’t want to see him anymore. Even though he is 18 he is a child of your’s and will always look to you as a father. So it seems like you are saying to him…Okay, I’ve done what I was obligated to do, you are on your own, and I am relieved of the burden.

The DiaryMaster

You and I could have a good conversation about the tribulations of teen/young adult boys/men/sons, I think.

I don’t think you were at all hard on him. I would have been the parent saying, “Well, guess you better be getting a job that pays well. Two years of college is going to cost you a ton…” and expecting him to follow through with paying for that two years of college he just blew. So yeah. I think you were remarkably calm given the circumstances 🙂

eek! I can tell that you’re irritated with him… but that’s to be expected. I’d have hit the roof, too. Hang in there…

AvidReader

May 19, 2010

Wow, graduation. You did a good job as a dad of a ‘kid’ now comes another chapter to parenthood a dad of an ‘adult’. 🙂 Hope you all have a nice weekend. No matter how old we are, walking in on our parents have wild monkey sex would leave us scarred and scared.