Already thinking….

We are planning a VERY small wedding. One of our friends is going to perform the ceremony. I have a couple friends who may want to make the drive but I wouldn’t expect most of them to — especially since we are going to do it on a weekday.

I want to send some kind of announcement to N’s family to let them know that their little black sheep is getting married. OK so in reality I have an ulterior motive….most of his family has money. While I don’t expect they would want to travel all the way to where we are (his grandparents are too old to travel across the country I think), I don’t want to risk them actually doing it. However, I would like a gift, money, something. OK that sounds bad but they have helped his sister in the past. He has never asked them for anything.

I don’t have family with money. I am going to have to help mom with her airfare to get here. My dad passed away a few years ago…I can’t stand my step-monster. My bff K probably won’t be able to come because she is going on a trip earlier in October and probably can’t get off work again. I may see if I can get someone to video it for me.

Wow….that so makes me sound like a materialistic woman…and I so am not. N and I have never asked for help for anything. My mom has helped me out in the past but I have always paid her back. We took over a car payment for N’s parents and moved to the farm to help them out. I am using a ring my mother gave me as an engagement ring.

N’s said the other day "I still haven’t gotten you a ring"…I told him not to worry about it, he got me a farm 😛 We can worry about a ring later and really, I don’t need anything fancy. I am just going to get a band that matches his probably.

Wow I keep getting distracted. So anyway…..trying to figure out how to send out announcements/invitations….Seriously we will have 10 to 20 people here at the most…I don’t know if I can even get to 10 honestly. We have very few friends here…N is asking someone he has known for a long time to be his best man — we don’t even talk to the guy but it is his decision. He would like to get his daughter to come to the wedding. I told him she is too old to be a flower girl but I would love for her to be a bridesmaid. I am only going to have J as my maid of honor and possibly N’s daughter as a bridesmaid. We don’t want to be really formal….it is going to be a costume party.