I’m not anyone’s maid

‘ve been gone for 4 days. My cousin came down from Colorado with his wife and kids so I had to spend some time with them. We stayed at my grandpa’s. Things were going well for a few days till my grandpa decided to piss me off the day before I was supposed to leave to come back home. I got up at 8 am or so (You can’t sleep any later than 9 at his house or he gets PISSED.) and he asks me if I want something to eat. I say yea and he points out the stuff to eat. So I go to the cupboard and start to fix my pancakes. Because of me being so tired all week from not getting enough sleep, I’m slowly making the pancakes. He decides that I’m being too slow, so he takes the hell over.

I get a little irritated and tell him that I can do it. He says "Well, you have to go faster. Kids have to eat you know." I tell them that they’ve already eaten and I was fixing them for myself. He goes and calls me selfish. Then we get into this argument and he tells me that when I get married, my husband’s going to kick my ass because I’ll be too selfish to fix anything for him. Pissed off, I tell him that I’m not anyone’s maid and I don’t want them to be mine. I’m not fixing a man’s plate. I’m sorry, but I think a man should be a man. He should fix his own plate, he should do his own laundry. Now, I believe in half and half. You know, someone helping around the house, but I don’t believe in being anyone’s maid. He got pissed off at me and said "Well, then you should stay at your mother’s because you’re being selfish." I tell him, "Well, thats your opinion."

I’m not saying I won’t cook AT ALL, I’m saying, I’m not going to jump everytime my husband says he’s hungry. HELL NO. Don’t start what you don’t want to finish is what my mother always told me and I believe that. What you do for a man all the time, he will expect it ALL THE TIME. I’m sorry for the ones that read my entries don’t agree with me. But that’s what I think of that. Like I said, let a man be a man. If you cook for him, do his laundry. He’ll expect it all the time. Think about it: He’ll think of you as his mother and won’t treat you with the same respect as he once did if you do everything for him.

My cousin’s wife does that. She fixes his plate, does his laundry, etc. And the thing that floors me is that his mother’s husband doesn’t do that. He does that stuff for his wife. He does the cooking, now the laundry, he does himself. Its really crazy. If I’m being selfish in looking out for myself then so be it. But I don’t think I’m being selfish because I won’t freakin’ CATER to a man. Realize guys though, my grandpa is close-minded. His brain is kinda like the military thinking. Its stuck in one mode and there’s no changing it. Talking about races and how better this race is than some other race.

And he’s so fuckin’ particular on everything. If everything isn’t PERFECT in his house, he goes ballistic. He talked about me while I was laying down a few mornings ago. He thought I couldn’t hear him but I was only a few feet away, laying in an extra bed that was right across from the kitchen where he was. I heard him say, "Well, that girl (me) couldn’t live with me because she doesn’t pick up after herself." And I’ll tell you now, the only thing that could have been messed up that I did, was maybe that my clothes spilled out of my hamper, but I didn’t know that.