I was the nice girl

Damn. If I had known about "Why Men Love Bitches" a bit earlier, I don’t think I’d be single right now. I found out I’m in the category of the "nice girl" and though, it has its advantages, it has its disadvantages also. I noticed myself in a lot of the stero-types in some of the stories that were told. Though some I had no relation to, I could easily see myself in them. I wrote down some of the quotes that were in the book (If I had had a 2nd copy of the book, I would have just highlighted the important facts.) One of the quotes is on my profile if you want to take a look at it.

Several quotes made me read and re-read them over and over again. A few struck me as common that I did, but never noticed it or was too blind-sided to see it and it was this:

Mistake #1: The nice girl makes the mistake of being available all the time." And I did that. I was always waiting by the phone for him to call.

Mistake #2: The nice girl fails to take a "breather" because of her fantasy that he is "the one" or her "soulmate". But this fantasy is a liability because it feeds a myopic view that he is the center of her life Now I had to take a double-take on that one. Could it be that I fell into that category too? I did and I know I did. But at the time, I didn’t see it. But as they so often say: Love is blind. And sure as hell, I was.

When I was a little kid, someone was always protecting me. Either my mom, Justin or someone else. I was the "nice girl" and that was my image, that was who I was and I grew up with that and now I think its coming back to haunt me unforunately. But now I’m changing the game for myself. I’m going to be a bitch. And ladies and gentlemen, its not a bad thing to be a bitch. I’ve been on that train once or twice, but the doors always closed up before I could get all the way inside so I was always on the outside looking in. Does that make sense people? I hope it does. If you’ve been in my spot, you know what I mean.

I had been wanting to get the book since I saw it in Barnes & Nobles. The first time I saw it, I thought it was a book degrading women, but I found out later it wasn’t and after that, I just had to have it. Its WAY better than "He Just Isn’t Into You". That book, while its good, it kinda makes women look stupid, like we don’t know any better. Don’t believe me? Pick the book up and read through it. You’ll see what I’m talking about. Again, its a good book, but this book tops the cake. I love it. Its gonna be my "bible" from now on. I even re-read part of the book after I got done with it. (And I had just gotten it through the mail today and ended up finishing the 144 page book in about 2 hours!)

So to end this entry and so you guys won’t get too bored by reading this: I am no longer gonna be that "nice girl". Granted, I will be nice in the way of being polite, I won’t ever lose that. I mean "nice girl" as in letting people step on me and wait around for calls and all that crap. That isn’t going to be me anymore. I’m done. So goodbye "nice girl", welcome home the new and improved "B-I-T-C-H".