Some people

 Have I mentioned how glad I am to have OD back?  It’s my go to place when I want to celebrate, ponder, or in this case, vent. I can’t on facebook because everyone involved is on there.  One of my cousin’s on my dad’s side named her oldest daughter after me.  I’m sure it was meant to be an honor or to create a closeness between her daughter and I, but it failed on all counts.  Her daughter is a selfish, rude, greedy piece of work.  She’s been on and off drugs since her teens, in her own words she parties like a rock star, does what she wants, lives where she wants, does whatever she wants with whoever she wants, loves who ever she wants, and tells it like it is.  My aunt and uncle moved here from Arizona and they all trickled behind. The two younger daughters have stayed.  One, honestly because she was on parole, but she married a local boy and seems happy.  The youngest runs a local Mexican restaurant (all 3 have Mexican dads) and is very happy here.  She says as long as her grandparents are here, she’ll be here.  She’s different than the other two.  Anyway, it wasn’t good enough for the oldest, so she took off to live in Vegas.  Her mother bails her out of every jam, her mother doesn’t work, she gets her money from my Aunt and Uncle.  He gets a decent pension, but they are going through it quickly.  Some of the daughter’s "adventures":  A few years ago she decided she wanted to go on The Biggest Loser so my aunt ended up giving her over $1000 to go to California to audition.  She didn’t even audition, she partied it away.  She was "engaged" for 8 years and decided he wasn’t good enough for her and kicked him to the curb. One month later she was living with a piece of trash in Vegas.  He’s a convict who served hard time for drugs. Her mother now lives in Arizona and my aunt and uncle pay her to sit with her brother who takes dialysis every other day and was recently removed from the donor list.  (Lots of medical issues with him.)  He has a truck.  Or rather, he had a truck.  The daughter and her boyfriend took it and refused to bring it back.  A month or two later they wrecked it.  (DUI, but she claims it was medicine.)  She totaled the truck (the vehicle her mother was using to take her brothe rto dialysis.) Oh and she had to have surgery on her face because of the wreck (plastic surgery).  My aunt and uncle paid for it. (She has no insurance because she can’t keep a job.)  Then, last year she "fell" and broke her jaw bone, her eye socket, and her nose – more surgery for my aunt and uncle to pay for.  (No one believes she fell.  We all think he beat the crap out of her.) Then, she decided she wants to live in Hawaii, so they go.  They up and move with no money.  (Cue mom crying to Aunt and Uncle that she needs money for food and they send it.)  About 5 years ago they found a mass on her overies and told her it needed to come out.  She decided "nope".  Well, it kept growing.  So she had to have it out.  And she was in Hawaii.  She was working at Goodwill.  (No insurance.) He lost his job a few weeks ago. (She says injuries from the car wreck keep him from being able to do his job.) So, she messages me and asked if I knew of any online fundraising that she could do.  She has to have the surgery or die.  I told her I didn’t know of any and she started talking about wanting to be "just like me". She wants to be a teacher.  She thinks it’s the most noble job in the world and she feels the call.  Bullshit is my call.  The next day she messages me to ask for $18.  (I can just picture her mind – it’s less than $20, so no one will mind.)  I knew it would open the gate to more requests, so I said I didn’t have it.  She told me it was for her co-pay , but she’d figure a way, then on one of her many facebook pages she wrote about not being able to count on family.  I’m sure it was supposed to cut me to the core.  Except, I guess she forgot she unfriended all the family on that page.  (My niece gets bored at work and stalks her sometimes, just like watching a soap opera. )  Every day we get updates on her recovery.  She takes selfies like she was 12.  (Seriously, she posted over 30 pictures of herself today. And she has done that every day for the past week.)  One of the selfies show the gorgeous diamon earrings the piece of crap bought her "just because".  So, you want me to send you money to pay your bills, so your crappy – out of work – boyfriend can buy you diamonds?  I don’t think so.  I’m sure she’s begging for money from my aunt and uncle, too.  I try to stay out of it, but I will see them for Christmas, and I plan on commenting on the "gorgeous diamond earrings" he gave her.  They deserve to know. I also messaged her and told her that I saw the diamonds, so I just wanted to tel lher how happy I was that they had gotten their finances in order.  She hasn’t responded. I don’t expect her to, unless she can come up with some sort of bullshit answer. Oh, and it’s probably important to add —she’s 30.  Yep.

I just don’t understand her.  My aunt and uncle can’t go out there for Christmas to see their dying son, because they can’t afford it.  However, she has no problem holding her hand out for them to giver her everything they have.  (Yes, I know it’s their fault for giving it, but she should never ask.)