family time

I’m having drama with my family, and it’s not fun at all. My mother had a hysterectomy last week, and didn’t let me know until about 12 hours before it happened. She called up and said ‘oh yeah, i rescheduled it and I’m going in tomorrow morning…" so I wasn’t able to take any time off to hang out with her. Fortunately my sister was able to come up since she’s not working during her pregnancy. She had been taking care of my mother for about a week and a half when she finally couldn’t take any more of it and had to just up and leave.

Mom knows how to push our buttons, and for my sister it’s to boss her around, use her like a maid, and then ignore her/refuse to converse with her. My sister is very emotional right now, and she really needs company right now. So… she left, and I think she did the right thing. Without going into specifics, I can say that my mother treated the two of us really badly. She abused us physically and emotionally, and I think that she’s lucky that we speak to her, much less visit her regularly.

Mom wasn’t happy about that, and rather than calling me to complain about it (she knows better than to try to bullshit me), she called my brother. This brother escaped the torture that was our childhood because, as a firstborn son and not a bit fey growing up, he could do no wrong.We called him ‘the golden child’. Anywho, mom calls him and boo hoos and tells him that we’ve abandoned her… never mind that he knew of her surgery but didn’t call her to check up on him. So he calls up the sister and bitches at her, then he calls me and is a bit of a dick… because that’s what he does. He actually told me "I don’t like gays, well yeah I do… I like to make fun of them, that’s all they’re good for."

yeah, he’s a dick. I need to call him and ask him if he’s always that much of a dick or if he was just drunker than usual.

Blah. My sister and I are just taking a break from answering phone calls from the Fam. She doesn’t need that stress while she’s busy making a baby, and I’m going to make sure they give her some space.

okay, I have to go now and call my brother; I want to remind him of some of his drunken comments.