Muse – Taking things too personally on OD

It happens often. Someone clicks around or looks at their notes or does some other innocuous thing in their normal use of OD, when they suddenly run into a barrier. The one that prompts this entry is favorites only.

They take it personally. In their mind, the person is elitist. Now, I’m not saying some aren’t, but to automatically think this is quite ludicrous. The reasons why people use features such as private and favorites only vary. Mostly because they want varying levels of privacy.

Though it does create a view in some that these people should be segregated from the rest of us, because they seek to segregate themselves. I can understand that and in most cases I agree, but there is no need to get snippy over something so minor.

People who make their diaries fully private or favorites only should be as limited. as others are limited by them. THey should only, in my opinion, be able to note those who can note them or those would wish to allow them to note. Personally, I’d allow it. As well, any entry that is marked private or favorites only(individually or as part of a diary wide setting) shouldn’t be seen on any list by those who wouldn’t normally see them.

Those are sensible suggestions that I can agree with. Though when it gets into the realm of feeling personally offended, that’s when it’s time to stop, take a step back and calm down for a moment. This place is made better by musing rational decisions to problems, not by letting emotions color your judgment unduly.

This is our community. Even those who have some or many locked doors. So long as people aren’t harassing, they should be able to do as they please, as they have spent the cash to be here. It behooves us all to be productive about such matters rather than destructive.

dj_johnnyquest

May 11, 2004

i dunno. i try to let anyone read, even if they don’t let me see who they are. i also believe in open notes.

I never said anyone using that feature was elitist, nor do I think so. I also understand people’s need for privacy. On the other hand, I’ve been here from the start of this place, and it’s premise is that it’s an OPEN diary, not a CLOSED one. I don’t have a problem with hiding, I have a problem with clicking on notes and entries that are public, only to find the diary is then private.

Peter_24601

I laugh my ass off whenever some moron posts a ‘favorites only’ entry on the circles. Big time brain fart… because what’s the point of posting it if no one can see it? Later,

I agree w/ Peter on that… Ive been faves only for awhile and just recently opened back up to make alot of entries faves only. Since youre a fave, you understand my reasons.. Lol, Placing faves only entries on the circles is just silly.

Liberalis Femina

I never abuse anyone else and I do block anyone who is abusive to me. I’m sure not going to pay to be abused. In my not so humble opinion, some people think they have the right to be rude. Call me old fashioned but I think that good manners are a sign that we are human.

Paula~ expressed my feelings on the subject perfectly.

Oh yeah, I did place you on my favorites list now, so you might read/reply as you choose. I wouldn’t want anyone to think I was elitist or anything. 😉

CyclingChick

Karalys

I have only ever blocked one person, and that person was summarily removed from OD shortly thereafter, so I can guess that others had the same issue with him/her. It is an “Open” diary, but that doesn’t mean we give up the right to decide HOW Open it is. Some of my entries are favorites only–some entries I still haven’t made because though I don’t want to pare down my favorites list, (c)

I am not certain how some people who are on there would react to the information. More than protecting myself, perhaps it is also protecting people whose sensibilities I believe are too delicate for some of the events I would recount. And I will eventually post the difficult entries as favorites only because there are some abusive, hateful people out there who I don’t care to be ‘open’ with.

I’m glad someone thought up a witty response to whoever wrote that anti-Faves-Only entry in the first place. Sure, it’s kind of annoying when you can’t see a certain entry or diary, but Christ, there are THOUSANDS of other diaries on this site you can look at.

Vox Clamantis

I think favorites entries are harmless. What’s all the hullabaloo?