Isn’t it time for a change?

I got a call from a client that really affected my entire day. Searching for various flight connections is a normal part of the job. However, this client had me checking everything from seat configurations to plane euipment type. I finally had to ask him what he was looking for in particular. After a brief pause, he says “Well, I’m a really big guy…and a simple aisle seat on any plane won’t do. I’m sorry for the inconvenience…”

My heart went out to this man. The whole exchange moved me to the point of tears. Yes, Aunt Flo is here…but I really don’t think it was hormones. This was the second time in less than 2 weeks that I’ve had to deal with this scenario. Both clients ended up having to take flights that were 3-4 hours later than they preferred…simply because their size forced them to.

I realize I’m in no position to preach on the matter. I’m the travel agent that let 15-20 free tickets expire over a 3 year period because I refused to fly at my size. I also understand that people are only going to make changes if they truly desire to do so. However, I can’t help wanting to reach out to certain people and help them see what a difference losing weight can make…especially a business traveler that practically lives on airplanes.

I know some of you might be thinking “well, maybe he’s content with his weight…” That may be the case, but he truly sounded embarrassed…over the phone. I’ve been there…and it hurts.

Until next time…

Zenzizenzizenzic

June 1, 2004

So, did you say something to him?

i am indigo

There have been so many things that I missed out on because I thought I was too fat. Eventhough I’m losing I still see fat in the mirror. My mind will change with time and until then I’m tackling my fears one at a time. You tears probably just came from empathizing with him and there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s like healing old wounds. Tears are good for us. 🙂 Take care and hugs.

He couldn’t have gotten a better person to talk too though! At least he had someone who could understand and wouldn’t cop a tude with him when he said that. Believe me, it happens. Excuse me, being fat does not make me a disease ridden parasite. I’m still a human being! I looove me some Diva!

Little Fish

This brought tears to my eyes. I’m sure you handled his needs with compassion and grace – not much else you could have done.

BonnieRose

Even somewhat larger than average people have trouble with airplane seats. Those things are too small. But that’s not your point here. I have felt his pain, too. Poor guy.

Wandioso

Dang! Funny how a post can change your whole attitude. I’m suspose to go on a business trip to Chicago in July. I’ve never flown before and I’m nervous. However, I don’t know what I’m more nervous about flying are being the oversized fat girl in a too small seat. I’m thinking about telling my manager I can’t go. I haven’t secured anyone to pick-up my children from camp. (cont’d)

I’m sure if I asked nicely my brother would do it and drop them off at my mom’s house. But it is an easy way out. My manager is very family oriented. Although the other team members have already gone I’m the one who hasn’t attended yet. Ugghh! What do I do? What should I expect on my plane ride from Jersey to Chicago? (Silently Crying inside….)

I am so with you on this one. I am the fat girl squeezing into the seat and praying that I won’t have to ask for a seat belt extension. I know losing weight will improve my life and make everything easier but I can’t find the motivation 🙁 Got any to spare? ~Peggy (bloggingohiogirl@hotmail.com)

Serilen

Flying on planes was one of the many things that motivated me to join WW in the first place… it was really, truly embarrassing. 🙁 It would take a really incredible person to be truly happy with themselves at a high weight, given what types of messages society throws at all of us every day.–

yeah, i’m working on not worrying about invading other’s space or me being cramped due to my size. it’s a shame that it happens, huh? i feel for them, knowing what it’s like.

Mz Odd

June 2, 2004

and I feel they have reduced the size of seats so more people can fit on some of the planes.

Baseballgirl

It is amazing how God crosses our path with certain souls. I am sure your heart was breaking for him and he was very embarassed I am sure. I am sure you handled it with grace and empathy. Hugs, Nascar_girl

capnsweets

I know what you mean, but just like with faith, weightloss is not something that can be forced onto people, or convinced into, it is a decision they make on their own.

Thanks for the kind welcome! I have to say that I’ve been reading your diary for a while now, and you were the inspiration for me to try WW!

TheLassThatSews

god that’s tough! you want to help, but just what can you say without making the poor man more embarrassed/uncomfortable than he is?

Its kinda interesting how we hear stories from time to time that make us feel that way, and know how that person feels because we’ve been there before..

LightButHearty

June 3, 2004

It’s good that you’ve been there…did you tell him? I’m glad you were there to help him with his dilemma.