passive agressive Facebook posting

 

 

 

I pissed my BIL off today. 

I posted a link to my FB page, geared the other women in my birthing advocate circle.  The link was to http://www.cesarean-art.com , which is the site of a woman who is dealing with her c-section by creating these incredibly moving (but fairly graphic and sometimes disturbing) art pieces (To my pregnant faves: I don’t recommend a visit unless you think you can handle that kind of imagery.)  The text I posted with the link was

Disturbing, but incredibly moving and *necessary* artwork, born from completely unnecessary trauma. Graphic artwork, possible triggers.

My (apparent) mistake was not inserting an "a" in front of "completely" show that it was a singly unnecessary trauma, not a universal.  My BIL apparently took it that I meant the later, and passively aggressively posted the following status update:

 

to all that think a cesarean isnt necessary, I almost lost my wife and son, not once but twice and it was a cesarean that saved their lives, praise God for the avalible surgery, futhermore any woman who has a cesarean is still a woman because they brought a child into the world. On a last note, it does not make you any… less of a Mother because, its how you raise them, not how you have them.

 

In the first place – I didn’t post the update for family.  I posted it so that other birth junkies in my circle would see it.  Second of all – second grade, much?  Why not just reply directly to my link post?  I certainly replied to his post.  

Of course some cesareans are necessary! If any woman should need one, we should ALL be thankful to have that technology. But on the opposite side of that coin, I know women personally who have been cut open for their own Doctor’s convenience. Those women have a very hard time healing from such a traumatic experience where they have all their power taken away from them in the moments with they should feel the most empowered.

Hope you guys are weathering the snow well. Is Gavin feeling better?

 

So. 

I feel like banging my head against a wall.  I’m so sick of these knee jerk emotional reactions: just because 1 cesarean was necessary and saved someone’s life (which I FULLY AGREE WITH), doesn’t mean they all are!  Hospitals that have 40% section rates are NOT doing what’s best for mothers and babies.  

Okay.  Rant over.  You can return to your regularly scheduled programming now….

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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