Relation ships

Well it has to do with reserving energy. I’m very introverted and only talking to intimate friends & partners give me energy. I don’t care you only want to be friends the intimacy requirements are the same. That’s ok, I know I’m an intense individual, not everyone can deal with that, i’m okay with that, I don’t want to talk about the weather, I want to dive into reasons for being alive, for passions & beauty. I’d rather be alone and self fulfilled than in a relationship that leaves me wanting regardless if it’s, friends, more than friends or coworkers.
I’m not lonely or desperate, I have my options and I choose to find people that want to spend time with me. If someone doesn’t then I don’t bother them.

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Free market relationships

Many times people do realize that relationships (not just romantic ones) are the most important things in their lives, and they are willing to put for effort to maintain them, however, to start them, it seems the most free market essence of relationships appears = Value.

People tend to want to get in to a relationship where they equal or they get extra value from the other person. Having to put more effort than what is perceived actual worth is the death of a blossoming relationship, this is where the walt disney syndrome is blatantly evident. It’s easier for a man to lie and make believe he is a prince, than to come out say the truth and wait for women to fall madly in love with him. The problem with this, is that once a product is purchased (a relationship has been realized, or a person has slept with the other individual) the value of the person tends to be idealized, in order to raise one’s own self worth, we have to lie to ourselves so that we don’t guilt ourselves, otherwise another easy resolution is to blame the other person as a scam artist or evil individual.

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I’s: Introverts are prone to thinking that relationships that begin effortlessly are the only ones that have some spiritual or surreal value to them, when in reality, the best things in life take time and effort.

F’s: I can see how people who put their energy in maintaining the essence of history or culture in maintaining what they see is their past.

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RYN: Well, I think if there are two high introverts then both people need to work at it. I think the randomization of life tends to push us to look for novel experiences rather than actually focusing on the content of the other individual.
Also, I think that makes it easier for Introverts to date Extroverts, but it may not be as fulfilling as two I’s dating. Does that make sense?