True and Toxic Love
TRUE LOVE- Development of self first priority.
TOXIC LOVE – Obsession with relationship
TRUE LOVE- Room to grow, expand, desire for other to grow.
TOXIC LOVE- intensity of need seen as proof of love, usually insecurity, fear
TRUE LOVE- Separate interests, maintain other meaningful relationships.
TOXIC LOVE- Total involvement, limited social life, neglect old friends, interests.
TRUE LOVE- Encouragement of each others success.
TOXIC LOVE Preoccupation with others behavior, desire to change them.
TRUE LOVE – Appropriate trust, trusting partner
TOXIC LOVE- Jealousy, possessiveness, fear of competition.
TRUE LOVE – Compromising, problem solving together.
TOXIC LOVE- Power plays for control, blaming, passive, or aggressive manipulation.
TRUE LOVE – Embracing of each others individuality.
TOXIC LOVE -Trying to change other to own image.
TRUE LOVE – Relationship deals with all aspects of reality.
TOXIC LOVE – Relationship based on delusion and avoid unpleasant realities.
TRUE LOVE – Self-care by both partners, emotional state not dependent on others mood.
TOXIC LOVE – Expectation partner will fix and rescue the other.
TRUE LOVE – Loving detachment (healthy concern about partner while letting go)
TOXIC LOVE – Fusion (being obsessed with other)
TRUE LOVE – Ability to enjoy being alone
TOXIC LOVE – Unable to endure seperation; clinging.
TRUE LOVE -Cycle of comfort and contentment.
TOXIC LOVE – Cycle of pain and despair
I will share this with GF.I think we have toxic love for the most part. Maybe if we see this now we can change it. I sure hope so. I so want this to work.
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hmmmmm
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Wow very true on all aspects – I want true love, toxic love sounds very scary and not good 🙁
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Are you gonna write about vaca??????!!! Im dying to know how you are and what you did! lol Love you!
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i can honestly say that i related to *every* single one of the toxic love signs for me & Jim. yikes.
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drifted over from Chelle Shell’s diary. I am guessing most of your entries are favorites only, but I got from her mention that your dad recently died? I am very sorry. As she said, she’s sorry to welcome you to the club. I am in the club as well – it’s not a good place to be. Again, I am very sorry….
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