The “punish the victim” mentality

One thing that really annoys me is a “punish the victim” mentality. When someone is the victim of wrongdoing and instead of their oppressors being punished for it the victim is persecuted. Over in the Middle East and North Africa there is a culture where if a woman is raped her relatives act like she disgraced the family by being violated, as if it were somehow her fault. I am surprised these people can walk and breathe at the same time. If someone rapes your sister, you don’t kill her, you kill the creep who did it. But this culture of imbeciles can’t seem to comprehend that bit of common sense. This same culture also likes to castrate girls through female genital mutilation so that they won’t grow up to be promiscuous, that is kind of like cutting off a kid’s hands so they can’t grow up to be a thief. It reminds me of a situation in a cartoon I watched; I am a fan of the old Nickelodeon cartoon ‘’Doug’’ created by Jim Jinkins, and there was an episode where Roger was pestering Patty to help him with his schoolwork and she wanted to focus on her own assignment and the teacher Miss Wingo sent Roger to detention but also sent Patty there for disrupting the class and when Doug and Skeeter protested she sent them too. My mom and I were watching this together and she commented that Miss Wingo must have been PMS-ing at the time. Even if a girl or woman is running around half-naked that does not justify rape, but in that area of the world females are required to cover themselves from head to toe so lust isn’t an excuse anyway. Most rapists are motivated by a desire to dominate and intimidate others to make themselves feel stronger and more significant but the morons over there treat the rape victim like she brought it on herself. That kind of thinking must have satan laughing his head off at these gullible easily manipulated humans. Incidentally not all Arabs or Africans necessarily think that way and it would be good if they would speak up and condemn these atrocities.
 
 One reason that the culture over in the Middle East and Africa has that punish the victim mentality is that they don’t comprehend the difference between rape and seduction. (Incidentally this has nothing to do with race or ethnicity, it is about culture, and I won’t be politically correct about it, any culture that treats women that way is a backward and inferior culture, real men including Africans and Arabs, treat women with respect.) There is a big difference between rape and seduction: seduction involves consent while rape does not. Seduction involves enticing someone to do something, in this case have sex, by getting around his or her intellectual and moral defenses through the promise of sensual gratification or emotional acceptance. Rape involves violating someone against their will, whether through force or drugs. If someone is seduced into adultery or fornication or prostitution and submits and gives in then they are guilty of sin. But when they are forced against their will then the victim has not done anything wrong. If the people over in that region of the world understood the difference then they would not punish the victim and add to her trauma. I do believe that adultery is wrong, as it is a betrayal of the wedding vows. It is a sin against one’s spouse and against God. But maybe if the men over there don’t want their wives cheating on them then maybe they should TRY SATISFYING THEIR WIVES instead of taking them for granted and driving them into the arms of another. But if a woman is raped her husband needs to understand that his wife did not betray him. She was not willing and she needs his comfort and support at that time rather than resentment and judgment. But if she was seduced and gave in then she has betrayed him and he has a right to be angry. Also if a man cheats on his wife then he is guilty of betraying her and God and that is just as wrong. In the Gospel according to John chapter eight the Pharisees brought a woman to Jesus accusing her of adultery and asked what should be done to her. I like how He dealt with the situation but He should have asked the question “ Where is the man she was cheating with?” She was not accused of masturbation but adultery and that requires TWO people. They should have brought the adulterer as well as the adulteress. There is sometimes a double standard in cultures like the Middle East. What’s good for the goose is good for the gander. As I said before rape is defined as violating someone against his or her will and without his or her consent. In my opinion there is also a difference between rape and ravishment. In most dictionaries “ravish” is defined as “to carry off by force” to “rape or violate” or “to enrapture or fill with joy”. Those definitions seem terribly contradictory to me. Anyone who has been the victim of sexual assault can testify that being raped does not result in joy. However some people do enjoy being violated by someone that they love or lust after as long as they are consenting. Therefore I define ravish as to violate someone with their consent and enjoyment and rape as to violate them without their permission and resulting in trauma. I believe that sex should be saved for marriage between a man and a woman but in any case and at the very least it should be consensual and enjoyed by both parties. I am in favor of making love (which is defined as having sex in an affectionate way), seduction, and ravishment within marriage but oppose rape, even in marriage. Marital rape is still wrong, in the bible it is written that men are to love their wives and rape is not an act of love. There are people who don’t know the difference between love and lust.  Although as I said above while some rapists are motivated by lust most are motivated by the bully principle, to dominate someone else to make themselves feel more significant. The victim rarely does something to bring it on. Even in cases of lust real men take “no” or “stop” for an answer. It is hormone addled boys who refuse to take no or stop for an answer. Real men of any culture treat others, especially women and girls, with respect and benevolence.