Mother’s Group

 I finally went along to my Mother’s group this morning. I have been wanting to go for a long time, but something just seems to get in the way or I just forget. Well I went this morning. I feel cheated. It’s not what I believed that it would be. There are a lot of teenage Mothers and I felt like I was the oldest there. Not that I’m much older then these girls, I just felt out of place. Most of them spoke about there weekend. Friday and Saturday nights out. Where do they get the time? Who looks after there babies? That’s what I kept asking myself. They turned around to ask me what I did for the weekend, ” We just stayed at home and watched some DVD on friday night and visted a Friend and her family on Saturday night.” I felt very out of place. I hate to say it but they fitted into the “Just a another Teenage Mum group”. I hate to judge and I know that there are some wonderful Teenage Mothers out there, but these girls where more interested in drinking and drugs then what there children where doing.

 I starteding asking some of them, about the birth of they babies. Out of a group of 15 including me, 10 had C-Sections. I was the only one who had have a emerancy C-section. Only 5 had a vaginal delieverys and they all had meds.This makes me feel sad. Now out of 15 Mothers with babies under the age of 6 months, Only one Mother breastfed and that was me. It really is lack of information. Being misinformed about Breastmilk and formula. Most of them said that they didn’t want to breastfed, but they also said that thier Midwife didn’t show them how to do. I really don’t believe that. We went to the same hospital. I had wonderful midwifes that took out the time to show me how to hand express and to pump, then later on how to breastfed. I think it has a lot to do with that they don’t want to know. Maybe they did go out of there way for me because I had a preemie, but still I wish that these girls had had more information on hand for them. I found that my hospital had lots of Childbirth education classes and information on lactation. For the days that I was in hospital each morning there where classes on with morning tea about many different topics. 

I now really understand what you mean Babs.

I’m going to go back next week, but in the meatime I’m looking for my local ABA meeting.(Australian Breastfeeding Association) I’m hoping to find people that are like me and  that are into attachment parenting. 

 Kellie