The secret to a happy relationship

 I am such a slacker, anyways, I HATE HATE HATE parking lots, people just seem to lose all common sense when they are driving in lots, it annoys me and nothing I can do cuz I work at a mall and have to park in the parking lots, then drive J two days a week to the same mall for her math class. It’s so frustrating when people just stop in the middle of the roadway waiting for people in the mall instead of finding a parking spot to wait for them. Then there are the ones who see you pulling out of a parking spot long before they came along, and continue to drive right behind you or the ones who continue to walk behind your car in your blind spot so you don’t see them. If you see someone pulling out long before you get there, just let them finish pulling out, Geeze it’s not rocket science people!!

I have been busy with my artwork, which is why I haven’t updated in awhile, I come on to note and read while I’m taking a quick break from drawing. I decided I’d take some time to write an entry today.

I figured out the secret to a loving relationship, only took forever but I think I finally figured it out, and doesn’t seem so hard after figuring it out haha.

My secret to a happy relationship is easy, just stop being a bitch, it actually works! Hmm who knew!! .. Ok to elaborate a little more.. I’m sure you all remember my rollercoaster of a relationship with Mike, We were happy, then fought, then broke up, then got back together, and so on and so on for like ever.  Well since our last fight a few months ago when I thought forsure we were done, because he wasn’t replying to my texts or calls, and when he did write back, he was very blunt and cold and pretty much said he was done. Well after more then a week of not talking we actually had a phone conversation and we were honest with each other and he told me what I was doing that was making him angry, and I actually listened to him, he also listened to me. I decided then and there that I wanted him in my life, I didn’t want to lose him, and something had to change.

I focused on my behaviour with him, my trust issues and my reacting without thinking first. I decided that if I wanted to have a healthy relationship with him, I had to work on trusting him, and have belief that he loved me I was special to him. So I worked on that and instead of acting out negatively when I was upset, I talked to him calmly and expressed how I was feeling without accusing him. I found by changing the way I communicate with him, he was more receptive to me, the nicer I was to him, the more attentive he was to me. It’s a circle really, By me being bitchy to him, he would become distant making me think he was with someone else making me be bitchy to him and so on. When I changed how I spoke to him and being nicer and not freakin out on him, he spent more time texting, calling me, giving me the attention I craved, making me feel loved and appreciated therefore being more loving and sweet to him and so on.

So this is what it’s all about and why it took me so long to figure it out, I have no idea, maybe he just makes me want to be a better person to him, so he becomes a better person to me and it just goes in a circle 🙂

We haven’t had a fight since we had that long talk months ago, I am happier, he is happier, he is very sweet and loving to me and makes sure I know he is thinking of me when we can’t talk. He called me last night randomly and we talked for a couple of hours, having fun and enjoying each other, and he didn’t want me to go, and when I woke up this morning, there was  text from him saying he really enjoyed talking to me last night, that was so sweet to wake up to.

So there you have it, the secret to a happy relationship, 🙂