Let the guilt trips begin.
My head is spinning again. We told my parents yesterday about our decision to move. My mom started crying and then she went into quiet mode. My dad was really calm and acted fine…..yesterday…. I called them today and my mom started with the crying and laying on the guilt thick and then I heard my dad start yelling in the background. They both think this is Dave’s decision and not mine and they’re telling me I won’t be happy. Then my mom told my grandparents. I haven’t actually talked to them yet, but I guess my grandma is saying that she might as well say goodbye now since she’ll never see Keira and me again.
I know this coming week is going to be guilt trip after guilt trip and they’re going to try and convince me that this is a mistake. I’m upset that it’s going this way. I’m trying to make them understand why we want to do this. Why can’t they be happy for me? I didn’t expect them to jump for joy, but yelling and my mom acting like I’m doing this to directly hurt her is just ridiculous. I’m stressed out enough about all I have to do to get ready and they’re just adding to the insanity. I really feel sick right now.
It’s up to you if you want to move. No one can make you do somthing you don’t want to. Your parents are maybe just saying this so you don’t move..Mindy
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dont let them make you feel guilty. you’re a grown woman who can make her own choices. kids grow up and move away, thats just how it is sometimes. your parents need to be more supportive and stop being so negative!
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When you leave home and marry and have kids your next responsibility is to your husband and the kids! So you are doing what you feel you NEED to do- don’t let anyone hold you back!!
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you are doing right. my daughter lives in CT. i still get to see her and the grandbabies. dont buy into their uproar.
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OMG, my family did the same thing. *LMAO* You are me!! We are about to move. ): But I’m excited. You?
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My parents tried that when I moved too… but I still left and it was the best thing I ever did! Of course those pesky hurricanes that destroy the gulf coast ran me right back here 2 years later but i’m so glad I never let my parents and their guilt trips stop me!! Hope all goes well!!
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Read this & it’ll answer questions and maybe inspire you thru this part of your life: http://www.opendiary.com/entryview.asp?authorcode=D575392&entry=10521&mode= I’m going thru the same thing.
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Oh no. 🙁 They’re upset because their baby girl is moving away… with their grandbaby in tow. You really need their support right now though, so I hope they can get it together enough to be there for you! Right now, they’re lashing out. Maybe sanity will return in stages. 🙁
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i COMPLETELY understand. i think it’s just hard for parents to get that we cannot plan our lives around them anymore. i’m just leaving for 1 year next year and my mom is freaking out. and i feel bad about that! they will learn. this is YOUR life now, and whatever you and Dave agree on is best for you family IS BEST. it just sucks they have to make you feel guilty about it!
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They will be happy for you – later. For now, they are losing their child, or that is how it feels to them. Letting go is the hardest thing for a parent ever. Children are the only things we love for them to grow away from us. A parent letting go means they are giving up a part of themselves. It is hard, it can be done, but it does hurt at first. You aren’t wrong, but it will take them time.
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to be honest, i think it’s natural that they’ll b e angry about you moving, even though it’s not your ‘fault’ and you’re not doing it to hurt them. i read about it once… people call it the ‘mourning period’. but you need to make decisions based on what is best for you, Dave and Keira… they will get used to it, and i’m sure they’ll love to visit you! xx
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Ha the guilt trips will be sending you one way, to canada. Besides it is a selfish reaction on their part guilting you like that. You hae to do whats best for your family and a fresh start sounds good. Is this move a forever move? Can they not come visit?
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