my heart is breaking

Have you heard about the total transformation program? I see commericals for it all the time. Maybe it’s something you could check out for short term. http://www.thetotaltransformation.com/Default.aspx Best,

(hug) You’re not a terrible parent… you don’t suck… I promise.

Honey…you’re not the one who abandoned him! You’re trying your best, and your hardest, to care for, and do what’s right, by the raising of your children! You don’t suck as a parent! You just feel guilty and badly, cause you don’t know what to do for him! Hugs!

The fact that you are willing to do what you have to do even though it breaks your heart and his shows that you are a GOOD parent. Be gentle with yourself, there are no perfect people, parents or otherwise.

You don’t suck as a parent.

Oh, babe, you don’t suck. I’m sorry that he’s having issues but it’s not your fault – you can help him turn it around and get better, now.

my friend is a child therapist, maybe i can try to weasel a bit of advice, but it would be hard prolly.. /huggles Chris

You do not suck as a parent. Not at all.

Hugs. you’re doing your best. I can’t imagine how hard it is to be raising two boys on your own.

Take the money you were gonna spend & buy yourself something nice. Let him know that it was because of all the stress he caused you, that you needed to buy yourself something to make you feel better. I know how hard this is, but it works.

I’m not so sure all of this is your fault. If people have thought before that he had ADD – even though you say they were wrong – then there are obvious signs that there is something there beyond his control. Perhaps something biological or chemical. Not your fault. And sticking to your threat shows strength and tough love. You don’t suck at parenting. I mean, it’s not like you’ve got a whole gaggle of kids for experience, you know?! This is the first Jonathon you’ve ever had! Cut yourself some slack.