mixed signals

baboo is mean.

lol.

he does all sorts of good things, and then he’s mean.

I don’t know.

so i proposed starting some sort of savings for our future child. I know we can’t save a lot right now, but if it’s like 2 years before we even have a child, we can save over 1000 dollars for sure. I figure if we put in 50 bucks a month each, that’s 1200 a year and around 2400 before we have a child to cover all that stuf fyou need when you start.

he just looked at me like i was stupid and has basically told me i’m being dumb because there is no guarantee that we’ll have a child together. he thinks i’m never going to get divorced. i don’t know WHY he’d think that. it’s just ridiculous and it makes me mad.

i hate these fucking mixed signals that he gives me.

I don’t know how to interpret them and we’re gonna wind up talking about it some more because I’m not just going to leave this hanging in the air because it’s bothering me.

i guess this is… to be continued…

aussie_powers

August 24, 2009

maybe he is just being cautious!

Princess Pitbull.com

August 25, 2009

Grrrr!! You’ll get that divorce one day. I cvan’t help but think the worst of why he keeps saying junk like that. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

B+

(hug) Guys have never been the sharpest crayons in the box… You just do what you need to do, and he’ll thank you later for being pro-active.

sepiasmile

I don’t think it’s being cautious – being cautious would be putting money away anyway, even if there was only a small chance. That’s weird to me. Even if you don’t have a kid after all (god forbid) it’s not like putting money away for your future together is a waste.

Enthusiast

What if you started savings like that, but for your divorce, and like 100 a month?? THEN he’d maybe be willing to save for a child. I can kinda see where he’s coming from.. but I know it still feels mean.

Godschild

I don’t knonw all the details or anything but you know you can go online to like legalzoon or divorcewriter and pay like 150 or 300 dollars for a divorce. I looked them up on the better business buearu and they have a score of A.

I say start saving anyway. I’ve thought about doing that… since I do all the bills, just start saving and not even tell my husband because he’d come up with all these stupid excuses. Saving is smart. No matter how much or what it’s for.

Beautiful406

He could have handled that one a little better. Gees.

Yeah… I’d start saving anyway. Good luck with the rest of your talk.

Grimm

“You’re never gonna be divorced” isn’t him being mean. It’s said out of frustration and a feeling of helplessness that there is NOTHING he can do about the situation… An Impotent Rage that there is no cure for…

four.leaf.clover

Saving is always good. You don’t necessarily have to say “this money is for a child.” Just save. And yeah, maybe it can go towards the divorce or whatever. Anything that helps. I also don’t really think he was being mean… I think he’s secretly super upset that you’re still technically married and it bothers him.