Chaosbride

August 23, 2009

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i want a divorce too!!!!

So I keep alluding to these conversations.

blargh!

First, lets talk about the mmmmmm sex I had on sunday morning. It was divine. some really good long slow rhythmicness going on.

Delicious.

I hope I get some more soon. As I said, I’m teh horny!

So a few times this weekend, once again, Baboo brought up my divorce. I want it just as much, if not more, as he does!!!! I wish I had 2 grand to throw at a lawyer and say "fix this so I can be done with it"… but I wont’ even be close to being able to do that until next year after tax returns. Baboo hates that I look forward to them, but I do!!!!

and I should have enough. and I think, regardless of everything, I’m going to make that my first priority. I’ll find a good lawyer who will finish my divorce proceedings with a retainer of a couple grand. I know they can do it. It should be uncontested. I’ve already filed. All they have to do is make sure my crap is in order to go before a judge and do what I have to do as far as stating that he cannot be found.

So yeah… the thing is, it almost feels like Baboo thinks I’m not doing enough. It’s hard on me because the reason he wants that out of the picture is because it is sort of like a brick wall in front of how far our relationship can go.

Did I mention that Jonathon wants to call him daddy? Yeah, crazy right? Baboo said "he can call me daddy as soon as you get a divorce"

Everything hinges on this damn divorce.

Us proceeding with our baby making plans.

Us proceeding with any real long term and definite plans (marriage maybe? lol, he said he didnt’ wnat to, but i beg to differ! He’s the only man on this planet I’d think of marrying again!).

Just everything.

I want it done so badly.

I saw it all happening long before now… but here I am. I made one step and stopped because I have no idea what to do.

Oh well. it’ll happen. just a matter of time.

and goddamned money!!!!

aussie_powers

August 24, 2009

D: I sorry. You need the new insta-spork harpoon! auto locks and poof drags him to you and you can beat the divorce out of him.. lol i’m babbling 🙂 Chris

What about using legalzoom.com ?

KPinK

There should be some kind of law, like a reverse common law marriage law, if you have been abondoned by your husband or wife & have not received a word or dime from them in x many years, shred the marriage cert.

B+

Everything in due time, I say!

~*AbbyLove*~

did you ever file for child support? they should be able to track your ex somehow!

Bees of my knees

Divorce is a pain when you know exactly where they are too. Abandonment does not a divorce make. Grr. Any chance he’s in Canada? I know a chef with mad pms who’d love to get her hands on him. :-0

babyontha1

Thats definitely motivation to get on it.

amanduh

I have no idea how to do it either, lol… but how hard can it be?! People get divorced everyday. ha!! Figure that shit out so you guys can be “one!” :):):):)

M.C.

Hugs!

I found a lawyer that was willing to do an uncontested divorce [including court costs] for 1175.00 [paid in installments up until the court date]. I’m sure there is something similar in Cali. If it’s uncontested you can usually find a lawyer pretty cheap [compared to the 5k rate of a contested divorce…]. Payments plans are the best, it took me a few months…but I had it all paid off. You can do it! I’m cheering for you. 🙂

Enthusiast

GAH! Stupid divorcing.

Menicy

Dangit, damn divorces. RYN: I’m alive, but barely, I need sleep and bad.

A stronger woman

Look it’s your choice but i would not let my kid call anyone “daddy” if i’m not married. Rob wanted that from Kaylee and look how that turned out. To think, if she lost her “daddy” she’d be devestated. Just something to think about…

four.leaf.clover

urgh… money is the devil!

Valyn Reflective

August 25, 2009

Yes, it will happen. I understand all too well the money woes, but you’ll get there.

I think it’s stupid that it’s easier to get married than it is to get divorced. My sister and her husband have been “seperated” for five years. Living in different states, different lives…. but they can’t afford a divorce. Stupid.

Guys have horrible one-track minds, apparently. At least his reason is more legit than Phill’s. Money is the root of all things evil. EVIL I say!

No Heart No Foul

What if he wasn’t divorced and you were starting a life with him? Seriously, put your mind in that place.. the ex hanging around somewhere, your life unable to move ‘forward’ because of a piece of paper (an expensive one, but still) everything on hold until the judge says ‘in law do you part’? What if you were wanting to get married instead of having a baby? Can’t do it.. not divorced.

Perhaps that’s the reason he’s hesitant on discussing the baby issue. Like it or not, you’re still somebody else’s wife.