MJ

I have to admit to being blown away by the media coverage of Micheal Jackson’s sudden and premature passing. I have read a few entries here on OD about it, and have found that most opinions bring out hordes of zealous noters who are angry over what was said.  In short, MJ’s death has become a lightning rod for people who hold extreme views.

It seems that if a person does not agree that MJ deserves a huge memorial and to be immortalized on a new postage stamp they can, and have been, labeled racist; while on the other hand, those who support MJ can be labeled closet pedophiles. Once again, the radical fringes take over the debate, and the vast middle ground of reasonable opinion is not heard. Well I would like to speak for those of us who have no ax to grind, who have a bit of compassion and common sense, and who can, if needed, open our minds and think for ourselves. I don’t want Al Sharpton and his semi racist rants speaking for me, and I especially detest individuals who so easily label those who do not share their rigid views as pedophiles or ‘unchristian’.

I liked MJ as a musician because he was innovative, talented, and extremely good at eliciting emotions in his listeners. That is a rare talent indeed. As a person, I felt MJ was certainly troubled and had a ‘fairy tale’ view of how he wanted his life to be. He did have an unhealthy need for plastic surgery, and did try to reinvent his looks. Perhaps he did that because he wanted to leave a difficult and unhappy childhood behind him, and needed to remake his self image.

I know he did not try to become white, because he did have an authentic skin condition, vitiligo,  which caused a ‘mottling’ effect on his skin. He used creams to even out his complexion, and given the extent of his condition, it was easier to lighten the healthy areas than to darken the diseased areas. The net result – his skin was lightened.

It is a sad, but all too common occurrence, that Jackson was surrounded by people who had their own finances, not Jackson’s welfare, at heart. He was insulated from the real world by his enormous wealth, and relied on paid staff to help him make reasonable decisions. Someone should have finally told him to ‘wise up‘ concerning some of his more bizarre habits, but they all wanted a paycheck, and meekly nodded in approval to his strange acts and whims.. Sound familiar? Think about some other first name celebrities here: Brittany, Lindsey and Paris just to name a few. All were enabled by people they mistakenly trusted.

I feel that Jackson truly loved kids, but was incredibly, almost terminally, naive. He took kids with chronic serious illnesses into his home. Jackson had no clue, when he admitted in a TV interview that he slept in the same bed with young boys,  that such an act would be be seen by most adults as a huge warning sign of child molestation.  I feel that, in his heart, Jackson was trying to give those kids a good experience with a trusted adult, not a sexual initiation. He actually made his home a fantasy land for sick kids and wanted those children to experience something he rarely, if ever, had as a child – time to just be a kid and goof around. After that interview was televised, I’m sure some parents heard cash registers ringing in their heads and jumped at the chance for some quick and easy money at Jackson’s expense. I can tell you this – if I thought a child of mine had been sexually abused I would not settle for less than the imprisonment of the offender, and would not consider a cash settlement.

I am glad Jackson had a memorial, though I think it was overdone and the city spent millions on security while other, more urgent needs have gone unmet. I do not think that a musician with such a controversial lifestyle should be considered a national icon or commemorated on a postage stamp. I think the best tribute to Michael Jackson, by far, is the music he left us.

I hope MJ is finally at peace. Now I am going to listen to one of my favorite songs, Human Nature.

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July 10, 2009

Saw you on the front page. Funny, I wrote a similar blog earlier today and I agree with you 100%. And your sentence, “…MJ’s death has become a lightning rod for people who hold extreme views..” is right on the money, IMHO.

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I, too, think Michael Jackson was very naïve. Children are naïve, and I truly believe in my heart that Michael had the trusting and the idealism of a child. I just can’t see him helping himself to sexual pleasure with those disadvantaged kids. I can’t. And whether the incidents took place or not, any parent who would willingly allow their child to sleep in the same bed as a man ora woman who is not their trusted parent should be prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law! I agree with you, if I had a child and my child had been violated, there is no amount of money that would mollify me. I would NOT want to see that offending man or woman in my face on the TV set, or worse, in my child’s face day in and day out. What is the child going to think of the parent who settles for this? Honestly – from my heart, this is one of the reasons why I did not and do not want to become a professional entertainer. No one is perfect; and you think you have the trust of those hangers-on. But when the relationship sours or the gravy train grinds its gears, the potential for betrayal and extortion shows his ugly head, and the public always believes the accuser.

July 10, 2009

… And why, WHY do they do him this way? Because it’s Human Nature.

This is probably one of the best MJ entries I’ve read. Thank you for having common sense. This entry actually made me smile. Thank you. And I agree with you. If I thought my child was molested, I wouldn’t accept a pay off. Sorry.

July 10, 2009

I agree. Al Sharpton is no idol of mine. With the power he has he could be doing good things for good people instead of exploiting his position. That whole racism thing always gets to me. I am too much a humanist to take to it kindly. I like your view of how MJ was naive and the way he tried to create an unforgettible experience. And incarseration would be the only option with me, hands down… ~

July 10, 2009

Well said. I think most, including myself, hold this view. Unfortunately it’s the extremists that the media focus on and are heard the loudest.

July 10, 2009

I completely agree with the vast majority of this. It’s refreshing to read something that’s not one of the extreme views you mention, it really is. ~

July 10, 2009

Thank you for putting into words the feelings I’ve had. This is exactly how I feel about the whole situation. I wish the press could now leave it be. He’s gone, they’ve had the memorial, now it’s time to move on. Just put on some Thriller and let things lie.

MJ said he slept on the floor while the kids were in bed. If I were a kid at Neverland, I wouldnt want to be anywhere else than where ever MJ was. I think it is sad that the only time MJ seemed like an adult was when he was performing. I guess because as a kid he had to be an adult on stage, so it is only natural that that is where his sexual side even appeared to the public.

July 10, 2009

Well, I think I have issues with this point of view. Obviously my opinion is not based on academic experience but from my own observation on life in general. I will say like you however, I hope MJ is finally at peace.

July 10, 2009

speaking of soemone stole his body.

July 10, 2009

Finally, a respectable opinion. Thank you for sharing your thoughts

July 10, 2009

I agree with everything u said! maybe MJ thought of sharing his bed the same way many parents do with their children. If u look at it in a bad way it sounds bad, if u look at it in another way it doesn;t sound so strange. my 1 yr old niece slept in mine n my mans bed with us when she visited. so does that make me a child rapist? No

July 10, 2009

Your entry was amazing. I wrote a similar entry the other day. It’s nice to see someone share a similar view on this. 🙂

July 10, 2009

i agree with you. it is too bad that his innocence (be it criminal or pathological) led to so much bad stuff. i did like his music and remember him from when i was a very young child myself.

July 10, 2009

*clapping* You said everything that is needed to be said about Michael and then some. If my child was so called molested, no amount of money on Earth would pacify me. Human Nature and Have you Seen My Chilhood tells of the pain he endured for so long…thank you so much for this entry!

July 10, 2009

Apparently you can only have common sense and a respectable opinion if you don’t believe he was guilty, according to what I’m reading from your other noters. And that is the problem I have with all this silliness. I have common sense, and my common sense tells me he is guilty. I respect your opinion, even though I disagree with it. But I am having a BIG problem with those who think the only (c)

July 10, 2009

RESPECTABLE and COMMON SENSE opinion is that which agrees with their own opinion.

July 10, 2009

I couldn’t help but think that had he NOT been so powerful and well known and talented, that he would have been able to get the help he needed. it was his money and position that insulated him from people who had his true welfare at heart – not their own.

July 10, 2009

Right on.

July 11, 2009

As far as the postage stamp, that is so ridiculous. If it ever comes to be I would hope that not one person spends a penny on it. I like some of his music, but to put some guy on a US STAMP , a guy who is suspected of child molestation, that is going WAY too far. Yes, “IS” suspected because there was never any trial. See criminals have their crimes forgiven after they serve their terms. Arrested individuals have their crimes forgiven if they actually DO go to trial, but people who pay their way out of a trial, well, there IS, present tense, still suspician. What if? Yes, What IF? I shudder to think that there would be a public gratification of this guy on a US postage stamp, when I think of the “what if” involved here. Since the truth has never come out, exactly, since there was no trial, –no, no, no no postage stamp, no “idol’ status, no nothing. He died, he had a funeral , he was buried. Yes , that is appropriate. But stamps? and overblown, overdone public memorials, no, not exactly appropriate.

he insulated HIMSELF from the real world, the people around him did not do that. Jackson made his money, spent his money, and now that he died of illegal drugs, people are feeling sorry for him, and moaning about his childhood? Everyone needs to remember that even though he had a bad childhood, so did millions of others, AND, when he died, he was of legal age, an adult. WHen hemade those choices of drugging himself, he was an adult. Think these facts are very important while people are moaning over his bad childhood. What about the childhood of those ‘alledgedly molested’ children in mjs story?

July 11, 2009

Idolism at it’s best…

July 11, 2009

I think MJ was struggling with a “Peter Pan” disfunction. He was an adult in body and age, but not in his mind. Maybe he was longing for a real childhood so bad, that he decided to make one for himself? He was surrounded by kids, because that’s what he wanted to be.

July 11, 2009

I will not write for one full month ,about mj, I have posted my last entry about michael jackson for one full month. I need to write about other things, and

July 12, 2009

see, those people who complain about child molesters say the molesters are sick . . . but who comes up with the ideas?

July 12, 2009

What I find most sad about the whole memorial thing is that people come out & publicly wail and beat their chests at Michael’s passing but where were they while he was alive? Did Michael KNOW that he was “loved” this much while he was alive & could appreciate it? Personally, I’d much rather KNOW I’m loved through demonstraton then have ppl show it after I’m dead & gone. RIP Michael.

July 13, 2009

ryn: hey! he really wouldn’t even need a full-blown booking agent – just the name and number for the venue’s event coordinator…and a foot in the door, if you happen to be in good with the aforementioned event coordinator. he has no pride (or shame). he’ll play pretty much anywhere (save for, ya know, effing starbucks or whatever) and he’ll happily open for other bands. he’ll pretty much do what he’s gotta do to make things work. as long as he’ll be able to draw a crowd who would enjoy his music (i.e. he probably wouldn’t do well opening for a christian rock band or whatever), he’ll be a happy man.

July 13, 2009

yea….

July 13, 2009

Certainly a well written opinion, thank you for sharing.

July 13, 2009

i think what the world will miss most is the astounding affect he had on aspiring dancers and musicians. he was, without question, one of the most creative and original artists to inspire the world and i’m quite sure that inspiration will be noticably missed.

July 15, 2009

This is well said my friend, very well said. I agree wholeheartedly. Perhaps because I grew up listening to him and singing and dancing to him in the kitchen with sunscreen on my feet (to moonwalk) with my mother. Haha.

July 15, 2009

I can’t even imagine living in the spotlight the way celebrities do. Throw in an abusive parent and parasitic entourage. Mix well and pour over huge chunks of cash. I have enormous respect for MJ’s musical talent, but I suspect he did molest a lot of kids. My concern now is for his children. I hope they have a better chance at normalcy.

July 15, 2009

All right! It may take a while, but it is time to get a web-site up with my singing, headshots, resumes, etc. on it. Thanks for the promptings to “hear me.” Sirona

July 20, 2009

There is no adequate measure as to the depth, extent, and bottomless aspects of damage that occurs when one endures trauma in childhood. I don’t happen to believe MD was a pedophile, although problems with Body dysmorphic disorder, and naievity, as you discussed — certainly positioned him for misunderstanding and condemnation. More … as one who has also dabbled in prescribed (and on occasion)

July 20, 2009

“over the top” use of prescribed Rx (because I thought I could), and one who has experienced involuntary addiction to prescribed meds … and … issues of emotional pain (and fatigue) … I’ve found myself feeling very sad about how exploited he was (and has become), how ill-advised (and he bears some responsibility here) in managing matters of finance. Childlike, reliant on others who

July 20, 2009

I find very sad. What’s happened since then is perhaps our first more global glance, into the insanity he endured while alive. I am glad and grateful for his beautiful and enduring gifts, and hope — in Heaven — he is finding peace, healing, and rest.

July 20, 2009

Yes! (Smiling.) And that with a few short keystrokes, he would be elevated to the level of MD. 🙂 Very charming, indeed. Blessings, dear one. Em

July 23, 2009

RYN: Thanks, though I admit, we’re not a couple anymore. We certainly were. I was just bored one night and put that together for artistic purposes. The boy in the picture and I are merely friends, GREAT friends, friends like you never have seen before in your life, but yes, that is all. But I appreciate the comment nonetheless.