why does he have to be this way

so Chai’s father’s wife had her baby….and i say her baby, because it doesn’t belong to chai’s father…altho, he is signing the birth certificate….messed up considering the fact he won’t show up for paternity testing for our daughter….he just graduated boot camp and is now in the air force……now i have a slight question….i heard that even if they are married, the military requires a paternity test because of the benefits…is that true?

we’re supposed to have another court date on the 23rd, and from what the paperwork says, if he doesn’t show up, he’s put on her birth certificate and ordered to pay support….i don’t think he’ll be making it, since he just got outta bootcamp last week…he should be on a base by that time….

i’m not bitter that he’s married, i think it is a sign that he is maturing ….but it’s ticking me off that he’s willing to sign the birthcertificate of his wife’s newborn daughter and telling his family that she is his, when he won’t even show for paternity for Chai…..i mean okay it’s great that he wants to be a father to his step-kids (yes his wife has another daughter who is about the same age as Chai)….but why can’t he step up, take the test and just get it over with? he’s had 3 chances to take a paternity test…and he’s never showed up to do it….

i’m just irked i guess, and the longer this drags out, the harder it is when Chai asks where her daddy is…she’s spent about a week with him, and that was after her first birthday….i mean what do i say to her, other than he’s away with the military? 

his family has nothing to do with her…i mean the most his parents have seen her is running into each other at stores…i ran into his dad at walmart last saturday….he asked me if her father ever comes to see her….then acted like it was the worst thing in the world that he didn’t…..

i just don’t know, i wish he’d take the stupid test, just to get it over with so we can go on with our lives….if he wants nothing to do with her fine, take the test, give up his rights…..

grrr so ramble over before this gets long n drawn out and i start repeating myself…..had to get it down on here so my mind would quit spinning

luv cole