undecided

so i was looking at Ally’s myspace…mark’s wife…and she’s changed her title to "i gotta get through this" and her status message is "hating things right now" and her little icon is a depressed one….

His brother was right, things are bad there…I talked to Cory at his daughters bday party and he said that he can’t even call Mark, because Ally starts running around the house packing things and trying to take off in the car…i can see her not wanting him talking to me, i am his ex…but i don’t understand how she can expect him to have nothing to do with his family, including his daughters….

When Mark called me a month ago, he was suprised to hear that Malachai plays with her half sister..when we get together…and that they know about each other….we had a grown up conversation….we are trying to be friends again, because that is how our "relationship" started….I want nothing from Mark, other than to get along so he and Malachai can have a good relationship, like a daughter and her daddy should have….

I hate to know that he’s hurting, but I also hate to know that it bothers me…I mean for almost 3 years he wanted nothing to do with Malachai….but now that he’s getting the shaft from his wife about wanting to have something to do with his children, I just feel bad for him…..is this a bad thing? or does it mean that I’ve forgiven him?

If she does leave him, it’s going to be real hard on him, I know this…but he will be able to have contact with Malachai as much as he wants and can….I say can because he is in the Air Force….but yanno, I know he wants to have a life with her now….just waiting to see if his world is going to crash…that and he went on manuvers the morning he called me…and he’s been home for like 2 weeks….so yanno, he still hasn’t called again…but i’m wondering if he still has our number…because I sent it through Ally’s myspace….

So the question is do I call? or do I wait and talk to Cory again and see if he’s heard anything more? I don’t want to cause any more problems….I mean I know emailing her just added to her anger….And if I would, I don’t want him to think that I am trying to cause them any more issues….

DianeRox

November 24, 2008

Hi, found you on the front page…I don’t know much about your situation. But I can sort of relate. I’m in a ‘somewhat’ similar situation. I think you should just wait to hear anything about what’s going on with them.

Thank you so much for explain more info. I have a few more questions (I’m really researching this before I do anything) -When putting a care package together for the soldier do you have to include in there how much everything cost? -When the soldier go back home are you told that they are going home etc. ?? Then you are told that you have a different soldier when you have a different one right?

SouthernMama

RYN: lol, that’s funny.

I filled out the appicaltion to adopt a soldier and I’m waiting for a answer now. Yeah! Also thank you for putting up with all of the questions. I added you to my favorites. Now to your question you have, I think you should wait a little bit longer to hear from him. If you don’t hear from in about a week give him a call just to make sure everything is ok & ask if he has your number. Just =)

Another question. I just got an email from soldiersangels and they were asking me for more information. I sent a email asking for what more that they wanted. Did you get a email like that? Cuz I dont want to give out anything personal you know what I’m sayin? let me know. thanks

HOnestly, I do think you need to let him make the moves. If he wants to have a relationship with his daughter (as he SHOULD) then he will do so. If he doesn’t, then screw him-he’ll have to answer to her when she’s an adult. She has a loving family now that gives her everything she needs. Obviously I’m still a little bitter towards him.