Blame Game
“It’s not my fault!” or “I didn’t do it!” are usually people’s first words when accused, even when it’s very obvious they are responsible. However, when it comes to others, they are quick to point fingers at them without learning about situations. In conflicts or offense, people, especially authorities, often blame the victim or individual instead of the offender or group. It’s as if blaming someone for anything that doesn’t work out is necessary though it’s not.
Most people are only seeking their own benefits or the easy way out, which is selfish, irresponsible, and materialistic. They blame others for their mistakes, because it helps them feel better. Placing the blame on victims instead of the offenders, or individuals instead of groups, is easier, which is why it usually happens.
Blaming others does not make me feel better. If I falsely accuse nice people, I only feel worse afterwards, and if I blame unpleasant people, my anger and hatred towards them only increases. Besides, false accusations only lead to more trouble, and many people just don’t seem to think about the future. These reasons are why I don’t envy anyone. Jealousy is just another way of blaming innocent people for our mistakes and misfortunes.
When I got bullied and teased in school, people, especially the staff blamed me for “not being strong or careful.” If I complained about the unpleasant ways I was treated, they said that I was "feeling sorry for myself." However, offenders of the bullies got in trouble. People also blamed me for defending myself, especially after listening to my offenders’ lies. Instead of complaining about what I did, why don’t the offenders ever say that the made the mistake of attacking me in the first place, forcing me to defend myself?
At TheOneRing.Com (TORC), when I reported harsh and condescending behavior towards me, the mods made the excuse, “You need to have a thick skin.” However, when I make a slight harmless complaint about something, I got in trouble for attacking people. During some misunderstanding, the clique accused me for taking their harsh and impatient “suggestions and advice” the wrong way, and continued to hold it against me though I apologized and explained what happened. When we finally cleared things up, they took my apology the wrong way, and blamed me for trying to degrade them in public when I didn’t even say anything about them. Now, why don’t these hypocrites say that they continued to hold it against me, took my message the wrong way, and had no patience?
The modeators (mods) helped blow things out of proportion, put unfair restrictions on me, blamed me for “trying to cause trouble,” and finally banned me, the individual and eventual victim, instead of the clique and offenders. I was only searching for proof and answers. Why didn’t the mods admit that they were violating rights and my freedom of speech? At the same time, I learned about a few members becoming victims of similar situations. I figured that the mods were violating rights just to make their jobs easier, and that they seem to find ways to get rid of people, because there were so many members.
There are times when people start to blames situations and others for defense from too much blame. Some punishers go overboard to the point where they rub it in and physically and mentally damage the person responsible. At this point, these punishers are blaming their lack of self-control, disappointment, and fear on others. For example, poor grades have led to child abuse: worried and not knowing what to do the parents lash out at their children. Professors and teachers also made insults and discouraging comments at their students when they are failing or having trouble understanding the lessons. The victims of these situations have no choice but to protect themselves from further physical and mental abuse.
People should be doing what is right, fair, and best for everyone in the long run, not what is easy for them. They should work together to make life fairer, increase justice, and decrease
chaos.