The ‘Boy Toy’ Situation
So my friend has this guy friend that I kinda like. He has a nice body, a good job, he’s into tattoos and he has several, and he’s wanting full sleeves. He’s even into ghosts and paranormal stuff just like me, and even has psychic experiences just like me. So far he seems like a cool guy, and I’ll admit that I’m finding myself interested in him.
But she decided she wanted a ‘boy toy’ and started hooking up with him. She doesn’t even like the guy, she says he annoys her. She doesn’t have any real feelings for him, or want anything more than to hook up with him some times. When he came out to the bar last night she kept leaving and stuff, and he started to get a bit upset. When she left I decided it would be a good chance to finally talk to him and so I did.
I really don’t know why she bothered getting physical with him if she doesn’t even like the guy. I wasn’t sure if I did at first, but last night when we were talking I started to figure out that I did. So it actually kinda pisses me off that she did, becuz she didn’t want anything really to do with him in the first place since their ‘personalities don’t mesh well’. She could have anyone she wanted, so it irks me.
I couldn’t even tell her how I felt about him. Once she told me they started hooking up I couldn’t even say it. How do you come out and admit to your friend that you liked the guy and now she went and screwed it all up since she decided to sleep with him for no real reason other than that she could. How would I really be able to come out and tell her how I felt?
After the bar I came home and went right to sleep, and all night long I had a dream about him. I dreamed that me and him started hanging out without her and others around and we started to really hit it off. It was a good dream, but when my friend found out about it she didn’t want to be my friend anymore.
I don’t know if he’s even remotely interested in me, and I have no way of knowing for sure. I just kinda feel crappy about the whole situation and I don’t know what to do. I’m thinking I might as well just forget it all anyways.
forgetting it won’t change anything…especially the type of friendship you have. you need to be honest with your feelings and with your friend.
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I think you should ask her if she has any real feelings for him and if not…let her know how you feel and ask her if she thinks he may have any interest in you. Tell her you didnt think you had feelings for him but now your sure that u do… I like your bkg and choice of colors for your diary. your pretty too
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I don’t know what to say! All I can is! Maybe you should try to steal him from your friend! If she stops being your friend over a guy she was’nt even into in the frist place then she was’nt worth it ya know! Well T/C love, Erin **HUGS**
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RYN: you posted a comment to my bro’s suicide story on the boards… Thanks for that! about this situation… I was there once. I really liked this guy after finding out that he was hooking up with my bestfriend,i backed off… but later on i found out that he really was into and i missed out. Take a chance and tell him how u feel… see how he feels. Also.. tell your friend that he is someone ur starting to have an interest in and u think it may be the same. Tell her that you may want to pursue it. If she is a true friend she and u can work through it! honestly… friends before lovers.. BUT…. in this case….
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