Note to the unsigned random noter:

Alright, so now I know what’s going on…I know who the person is that you are talking about. Thanks for telling me, it wasn’t that hard now was it? I’m glad I decided to ignore your notes becuase the person I thought you were talking about was completely different from who the person really was.

You are right, I don’t know that girl at all. But this is her diary, it’s her private place, it’s her place away from you. You don’t have the right to say what she does or does not write about. I can comment or note about whatever I want. I don’t feel that she is attention seeking by any stretch of the imagination. I know what it is like to be 17. I remember it vividly seeing as I’m only 19. It was a very rough time for me and I am happy to give her love and support.

If she wants to talk about only one thing, then that’s her business, not yours. She can do whatever she wants you do not have control over her. Last I checked, this was a free country and I could write whatever I wanted. I am not insulting, degrading or putting her down. I am just talking to her. I highly doubt that anything I say would have such a large impact on her that I could so drastically change her behaviour to affect you.

Maybe you should start worrying about urself and your own problems. I am going to continue living my own life and I’m not going to let a petty little note put a damper on anything I say or do. I don’t know who you are…but I am going to continue speaking with my Open Diary friends as I have before.

Well as it seems there is more than one person that is trying to tell you something cuz I am the person that wrote the first couple of notes to you..but I was made aware that someone else tried to inform you as well. If you really knew what was going on you might be inclined to just take the advice that was given.

I believe that when I sent you those messages that I asked nicely. We are people that DO know her and DO really honestly care and want to see her make it thru some difficult times but she has some things that she really needs to deal with and see for herself and all you are doing is helping her cover them up

Since you don’t know who this is you probably shouldn’t be telling me to mind my own business cause you are wrong, it is my business. I told you that some things were ok to say but asked that you be careful as you could very well do damage and if you do then it’s on, you will live with that!!!!

So now that you are aware that there is more than one person asking the same of you….maybe you should give that some thought…Yes she is ONLY seventeen, she is still a minor child. She is allowed to speak her mind and thoughts, was just asking for some help in not provoking some things but you have made it clear that no one controls you instead.

But thank you so much for your cooperation!!!! I guess we know that you are more worried about having someone tell you what to do than you are about her.

p.s. this isn’t about me or YOU…it will effect her but you can’t see that..you take things too personally..if u don’t want to help then don’t! we will take care of it

sammydanger

April 26, 2007

Hey hey! wow, seemed like a missed a lot! 😛 Shall continue catching up! Hmm, I don’t seem to know the whole situation but I remember the notes. RYN: SEARS! Believe it or not! lol. Jessica brand, quite lovely, I’m wearing it today! 😛 and of course I’ll update when I’m in England! 😛 hell you should just come! 😛

I had to stop in & see just what all it was is that I am being accused of doing…this is Melissa…the so called ex-girl friend of nay’s dad…nay can say or think what she wants to….but she knows better than what she has been saying…and as far as me just not letting go…her dad calls me and texts me evryday or sends me things on yahoo…

She is mad at me cuz I think cuz I didn’t stick up for her as I usually would when her dad and her got into a fight cuz she skipped school when her dad had already told her what her consequences would be if she skipped again….there is more to it than that but that is the just of it….Nay & I were really close at one time and now she is telling everyone that I crossed the line….

She says that I was more like a friend and she doesn’t want another mom…fine..but what are friends for???? Don’t friends and shouldn’t friends care if you are screwing up??? Shouldn’t they be able to say hey, Nay…you are screwing up and I don’t want to see you do that??? Yes…there is a lot more to it than that but that’s where it ALL began….

Not to mention they were staying here with me…I was the other adult in the household and her dad was getting upset with me telling me that I needed to act like more of a mother-figure and not so much a friend….what a position I was in…I knew Nay didn’t want that so what was I supposed to do…I couldn’t win no matter what I did…

She makes it look like I am the one sticking my nose into her business…well I don’t and I could care less who she talks to. If anything she is the one that sticks her nose into her dad’s and I business…we can deal with things ourselves and we will…If I’m the one that won’t let go then why does he get ahold of me everyday??? I am only telling you this cuz I’m upset about what she wrote…

Maybe I should have listened to what her dad was telling me but I was trying not to put pressure on Nay…I did what I thought was right at the time…She knows that I have always been there for her and always will be…she is the one that has pushed everyone out of her life…maybe cuz she is scared that they will only leave her but she has alway known better with me…

Nay can make me out to be whatever she wants to in her own mind…it won’t change who I really am..and she knows that I love her very much…no matter how upset I may be with her…no matter how bad she screws up…no matter what…she became a part of my life and I will always keep the spot open for her…

I love her dad very much….we just have some problems that can’t seem to get resolved cuz of everyone fighting…him and I included…we don’t work the same..they hold onto the things that went wrong…I like to let the good things overcome the bad things…life is too short!!! We all make mistakes, it’s what we learn from them that’s makes the difference and helps grow stronger….

Bottom line…I just wanted to see what I being accused of..didn’t mean to ramble was just a little upsetting…wanted you to know that I wasn’t the one that was noting in your diary and her diary is her thing…..she should think about what she says tho obviously and her dad has warned her about what she writes….not my concern tho…they can deal with it

If you two want to talk…talk away!!!! I have nothing to do with it or to say about it…unless I hear that she is putting me and her dad’s business out there…I can tell her that he won’t tolerate it….he would just do away with internet…

black_haven

May 2, 2007

it sounds like u need an online diary to get advice from random ppl! It feels good to vent, doesn’t it?

Nay started a diary for me a couple of years ago but I deleted a while back…for reasons such as this…open opportunity for some people…I didn’t use it much anyway..I’m more comfortable with people that know me I guess….Her dad always had a fit if I wrote anything about him and I so what was the point…He’s not into putting things out there for the whole world to read..

I thought about starting another one but it would probably just makes things worse cuz he would just get upset with me for doing so…Seems like he is always looking for a reason to argue and I can’t stand that so why give him a reason???? I’m just way to tired of the fighting to make way for anymore of it. It gets really old…

Yes, venting is good, we all have our own ways of doing so…but…sometimes it just causes more problems so I try to watch how I do it or it usually just comes back in my face and I become every name in the book..ya know??? Fighting drives me crazy..and I hate it when he when he pushes and pushes until I finally break and have to argue back….but I’m used to it and I just deal with it….

Anway, I’m not going to say anymore…it would only be something else I did wrong…like I told her dad..if I stay out of the picture then I can’t be the one to get blamed for whatever goes wrong….Nay will think what she wants…she get that from her dad and that’s ok…it’s nothing I’m going to worry about…I don’t know when this all started but I was without a computer there for a while so…