Life

I’ve been sick lately. And overworked. Robs dad could be dying. Yes, Rob is finally home.

I could write forever in here about his family. But I’ll summarize:

Robs dad cheated on his mom, they divorced. His mom left the house. Rob was 15, his sister was only 11. Their dad also left the house, and left his kids with no food to eat. Rob started working to feed himself and his sister. His dad said that since he was working he better start paying rent.

Rob found a girl 4 years older to live with, his sister moved in with some friends living in government housing. (Remember: 15 and 11). This lasted a little over a year, when Rob moved again North to be with his grandparents. Finished high school, a bit of college, also did a lot of drugs, dealt and went to jail.

meanwhile, his sister was stripping for money. Then got pregnant from her 45 year old pimp.

Baby was about a year old, Rob and I met and started dating.

xmas time: his sister’s baby dies at a government run daycare. Lay there so long she was cold and there wasnot enough blood for a good autopsy report.

Fast forward three years later. Now.

Still no report of cause of death. Robs dad, no part of anything…

I could go on and on about the awful things his father has done, but just this week, Rob found out his dad has stage 8 prostate cancer. And he’s dying.

Rob wants to talk to him. Not for the sake of his father, but for the sake of him. Rob wants to know why he abandoned everyone. He wants answers.

I’ve just been doing a lot of listening tonight. I don’t have words or solutions. He will have to come up with the answers. But I do think he needs to talk to his father. Maybe not for real answers, but at least to get how he feels into the open.