Al-anon

I’m sorry, I have to laugh at a couple notes left by people in here. Alcoholism doesn’t mean drunk 24/7 in every case. It doesn’t always mean rehab and detox lmao… Nor does it mean the person you are dealing with is manipulating with every breath. So funny…
Anyhoo, I went to al-anon today for the first time and really enjoyed it. They say 6 times before you know for sure if it is for you. I gave the internet al-anon info to his mom and sister. They may go to one on a different day.
I’m still looking for another place. I do think that he’ll heal best on his own. He’s convinced himself that hypnosis is key, because he’s “only” a binge alcoholic. It was so sad, right before I left for my meeting, he had that sad, fearful smile that he only gets when he’s trying not to cry. Its the closest I’ve seen to remorse in the last little while. He really wasn’t maing sense, and I could tell he was pulling desperately at strings by the way he was talking. He said “I’m not like all those AA guys that can’t control themselves, because I can. Its just every once in awhile I can’t control it. If I can just be a little bit wild all the time, then it’ll be spread out more, and I won’t end up losing control and drinking like that anymore. And then I’ll just be normal. Because I want to drink like a normal person, and have friends and just have a couple drinks. I’m going to do hypnosis. Its going to work. This is my last thing and if it doesn’t work, then I’ll stop drinking. Will you stay if I do that?”
Heartwrenching! Seriously! He IS trying, he always has. Its his stupid alcoholism illness… I don’t envy him, that’s for sure!
I’m going to keep looking for a place. I’ll take my time. And just like I said to him before: I won’t give up if you don’t. As long as he’s still fighting, he has a chance in the world, and so does our relationship. However, he does need to know that I won’t be mistreated. Al-anon will definitely help with that. I feel SO at peace knowing I have it backing me up. A safe place. A haven of people that feel just like I do.