Thoughts
Yesterday, I was talking to a good friend of mine and we got on to the discussion of cigarettes and drugs. I started thinking about writing on that kind of subject. She talked about how it’s stupid for someone to slowly destroy their body with cigarette smoke. Then, we talked about drinking and stuff like that.
For me, I don’t do any of that stuff; I just don’t see the point. That brings me to my next thought. Since I have been here on OD, I have dropped a few people because of what I read. Every diarist has the right to say whatever he/she wants to write about. I don’t think it’s right to force someone to change how they want to write. I’m not big on reading about smoking, drugs, or sex in a diary entry. Usually, if I read an entry about those kind of things, I’ll usually skip over it. Last but not least, I’m having a hard time deciding whether or not I should just stop talking to said person because of their lifestyle, or continue to be their friend despite of it. What would you do?
You’re friends with them for who they are, right? Well, part of that would be accepting that they have different beliefs and practices than you. Politely agree to disagree if you must, but dropping someone because of what you read in their diary seems a bit harsh to me.
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I agree with the note above. There is a point that if it bothers you in personal conversations (email, im, in person) you can always ask them that you don’t believe the same way and could we change the subject. But if they are writing in their Diary, then there isn’t much you can do, just avoid those entries. If they ask you why you didn’t note that entry,just explain that you have a (continued)
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view on the topic and you would rather not start a problem by leaving a note that could be taken wrongly. Part of getting to know people on OD and in the real world is realizing the difference between them and yourself and learning to respect their opinion even if it is different. You wouldn’t want someone to quit talking or noting you because you didn’t believe in what they did, would you?
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darn- in the above note I meant to start it off: different view, not just the word view. Sorry.
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i’d keep being their friend, just don’t get involved with those kinds of things, you know? there may come a time when their life style gets them into trouble and they might need a good friend to lean on. try to be there for them. you never know. haven’t read you in awhile, hope things are cool!
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part of having a diary is being able to write about your life…not that you’re saying that these people shouldn’t be writing this, but don’t you think it’s kind of close minded to only read people’s diary that fit your so called “perfect” image?!? not everyone is like you, there are all sorts of different people and if you close yourself off because of certain “things” you read in my opinion that
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is extremely silly! It’s not suppose to be about the things people do, it’s suppose to be about who they are…and although I do believe the descions we make does make up a person, I don’t believe it is a person! To be honest with you reading that entry kinda made me stand back and shake my head, but it doesn’t mean I’m going to stop reading your diary!
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Smack Smack Smack….. bad me for talking about sex.. darn it!
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I’m not into smoking, drinking or drugs either. I do have friends who engage in some of those activities. While I do not agree with their actions, I do still love them because of who they are. I hope they can stop abusing their bodies. Until then, I am still friends with them because of their personalities and all that good stuff. :o)
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