roomate issues

so me and room mate had a confrontation sort of today. I straight up told her that I think we should make some guidelines having to do with chores. She tries to boss me around and tell me what to do and when I stand up for myself by having my boundaries she gets mad.

I was feeling awkward because she was putting down the christmas tree and stuff like that she asked me to help her. so i did. she said vacuum so I did. I took out the recycling. She thinks shes the mother hen or something. Telling us what to do, my other room mate doesnt care much but I do. I moved out of my moms house for a reason.

I could tell she was mad at me. When I would talk to her she would grumble answers. I didnt get it. I mean all the stuff of the table was hers, she was the one who put up the christmas tree. She just likes roping me into things. I never feel like it is us three all living in the same place, paying the same rent, helping eachother out. I feel like it is HER cutlery, HER furniture.

I talked to her after wards. I told her how I felt and she responded that I act like I am a kid rebelling from her the mother and thats just not the case. I ignored that because obviously thats not the case. I dont like to be told what to do. We all live there regardless. There should be some guidelines or else resentment builds up like it already had. I did vacuum, I did take out the recycling. could I have done more yes.

But she likes to take over and do things than get mad when I cant read her mind. Its never a question or a request its a roping me the fuck in. i have every right to say yes, no or maybe.

when i suggested that we make guidelines she says shell make up a list of things that need to be done and I can check off the things I want to do or have done. and I said no we need to all come from the same place. she said okay. she said we will all come up with lists about what needs to be done and come together. this is my 2nd attempt on holding a room mate meeting. i will tell her and she wants to defer it. again she is trying to defer it.

its taking alot of energy for me to do this. i have the feeling neither want to think of ground rules and just have a real casual atmosphere. i cant handle that. i never have guests over they have them over dont give notice half the time and have them sleep over. i dont know these people. the situation is not ideal. its okay for now.

do i keep pushing this room mate meeting? or do I let it go and just give in to her, i dont know…..