I’m just annoyed and wonder where manners and human decency disappeared to

A few things have been bothering me lately.  Perhaps writing about them will help work out the mounting frustration that’s causing me to dislike people.

These are in no particular order:

  1. People, who talk about how they did something good and then feel the need to say something like “and what did you do?” There was an OD2 author who did something really amazing.  I was tempted to leave a comment thanking them, then saw their final statement.  I then musted all my mental strength not to leave a negative note pointing out how bad of a person that really made them look.
    1. My ex would keep track of all the good things she did for people and at times “remind” people of what she did for them.  Routinely I would remind her that if you do something good, it’s for doing the act out of kindness.  When a person starts keeping a tally of “good deeds”, both the good deed is no longer valid, and the person appears petty and selfish.
      Because I have brain damage and memory recall issues I kept a log of who did what.  The next time she played the “I did this for you” card, I pulled out my list and pointed out that I didn’t need to help her because I had still done a bunch more stuff for her so until she catches up I’m helping her.  Wow, she got mad.  I just walked away.  I hope she learned a lesson from that.
      This is also one of the reasons we broke up.  I can’t stand petty and people who have ill intentions under the guise of “doing a favour” or “good.”
  2. People who eat or drink while I’m talking with them on the phone.  No one wants to hear you slurp and mash food.  Besides being rude, it can affect the person you’re speaking with.  I ask people to stop once; they continue I just hang up on them.  In a weird twist, I’m called rude for hanging up on them.
  3. This ties into number two; when people are in meetings and wait until they have to say something and then take a bite of food before speaking.  Most people are not a fan of seefood.
  4. People who are always on their electronic devices around family and friends.  Very few people in the world; and you’re not one of them, who are so valuable that they need to reply to a message or check an email as soon as it comes in.  It doesn’t make you look important or special; it makes you look like someone who doesn’t care about what you’re doing with the people you are supposed to be spending time with.
  5. Again ties into the previous one; people who use their devices during meetings.  I called out the president of a college once for doing that.  Every0ne was shocked, but the president thanked me and reminded everyone why what he was doing was wrong.  It distracts everyone and is an insult to the people who are talking.  There is no way the person on the device is paying attention to what is being said.  A few points may be heard but most gets blocked out.
    That’s why when I hold a meeting, all electronic devices go into a bin and are not touched until the session is over.  There was resistance at first.  However, once people realized the meetings were 1/3 the time and more productive others started implementing the same restriction.
  6. People who parrot rather than think for themselves.  This is taught in school – repeat what others say, free thought is wrong.  This has become even more evident with mainstream media (MSM) and Trump.
    I’m not a Trump supporter, I don’t know him personally or what he is like so I won’t comment on that.  What I do know is when the MSM calls him “insane” or “crazy” people start repeating it.  When I ask where they heard it, I get a reply like CNN.  So I ask what Dr, Psychologist or other medical professional made the diagnosis – the answer is none.  When questioned about who was making the claims of mental illness; which is not something to make fun of or use in a defaming manner, they tell me that it was a reporter or pundit – someone not qualified to make the statement they are, and in the case of pundits, it’s motivated politically.
  7. People who blame one person where they would praise another.  Trump tweeted about comerical airline safety.  Presidents, Prime Ministers, Kinds, and other rulers get credit when good things happen in their domain.
    While people bash Trump for taking credit; without knowing how many pieces of airport/airline safety legislation he passed, get all upset at him taking claim for a safe year.  If Obama did the same thing, these people would be praising him while saying anyone who talked smack about the claim was racist.  You can’t have it both ways.

There is a lot more, this really just opened a rabbit hole.  Venting is not helping.  I’m going to do something else.

Again, I am not a Trump supporter; I’m just calling out the people who have thrown away logic and ability to think beyond seven seconds and what they are being told to believe without question.

MJG
“for I have sworn upon the altar of God eternal hostility against every form of tyranny over the mind of man.” ~ Thomas Jefferson
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January 4, 2018

There was a time when etiquette was something that schools would teach students, and parents enforced the finer points of the social niceties. Sadly, today they are more concerned that junior might get low self-esteem. We have a few restaurants in Italy that we love because they actively block cell service on the premises. No social media, no texting, nothing. Forces the clientele to actually interact. And I’ve worked in a few facilities where phones and laptops were banned at meetings. Brilliant!

January 4, 2018

There’s a rule at my house that no electronics are allowed at the dinner table.

I agree with a lot of what your said here. There was a time when I would have copied everything my EX said just because of love. I soon learned that I have a mind of my own and am able to think for myself.

January 4, 2018

You talked about people who eat while talking on the phone. How about people who use the restroom while talking on the phone….

January 5, 2018

@twik: Hi, it’s me, Lois Butterfly4Him, I can’t leave you notes. I can read you, but, not note. IF you choose for me not to, I am okay with it, but, it appears moreso, to be a glitch . T.Y.

January 4, 2018

I totally agree!! Electronic devices should be banned in Boston, lol, and all places where people gather for social occasions. “Check them at the door. ” I also have a confession, I sometimes eat while on the phone, and try to be discreet, but, from now on, I am stopping any phone eating. The comment about the bathroom, is downright gross Have a good night.

Etiquette and manners are dying out in America which is really sad. So true about the political bias of the MSM. Love that quote by Thomas Jefferson.

January 6, 2018

I saw a MSM story today @Czari which talked about Crissy Teegan and made her out to be a victim of some crazy person attacking her on twitter.

Not once did it show the other person’s tweets, but just made fun of the person.

For some reason they spent more time talking about how Chelsie Clinton was defending Teegan than anything else.

Want to start an international etiquette and manners school?

@axalotal I like the idea of an etiquette and manners school but probably the people who are already mannerly would attend and the people who need it wouldn’t.

January 6, 2018

My mobile phone is somedays my only like to the outside world. But I fully agree with you @wildrose_2, they need to implement more places where signals are blocked.

Even if one has a sick spouse or child, it wasn’t that long ago people managed fine without up to the minute reports on how they were doing.