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“Anyway!”

October 30, 2024
A dear friend of mine said, "I never feel like your mother is really listening to me." "She's not." My reflex reply. All my life, holding conversations with Mum has been tiring. She's never fully present. She's never fully listening. She'll readily gossip about the misery and shortcomings of othe...
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