The Virtue Of Unforgiveness

Few things are as cruel as the complete removal of one’s self from the life of someone who values you, in some way. The total shut-down of communication lines, company, and consideration. To willfully turn someone’s entire role in your life into a burnt memory; leaving nothing but a brittle carbon frame to disintegrate under the elements. Cruel, yes, but also extremely rewarding in the right situation…

Relationships are a business. An exchange of goods and currency in the forms of expectation and diligent service, only without any sort of formal business arrangements. Instead we take, through whatever means necessary, what it is we need or want from our business partners, while they attempt the same…often without any conscious awareness of what we want, or what they want. As long as both parties are attempting to draw stock out of the other, a relationship will persevere…but eventually some items find themselves on back-order, through no direct fault of the manufacturer, and the lack of any formal arrangements prevents this tiny bit of information from making it to the customer. Not that this stops the business from doing everything in it’s power to continue taking the customer’s money, it simply leaves the customer confused and completely unsatisfied, without knowing exactly why.

The type of forgiveness that proceeds an emotional reaction, or moment, is well justified and logical…much like the type of unforgiveness that proceeds a rational decision, based on awareness, to permanently dispose of an individual that no longer has anything to offer beyond a willingness to continue taking from you. It’s a blow with a two-fold benefit- the infliction of harm on one who is perceived to deserve it, and the removal of one’s self from a position of being taken advantage of. It should be used only with great calculation and care, however, when it is finally determined that the business will never again stock what it is you need.