Reason #1 I cannot have children

1. I cannot handle watching my friends make the same mistakes I’ve made, and refuse to listen to the voice of reason or see the truth.

Friend that I earlier dubbed Volatile, is "dating" a new guy. I use dating loosely, because its only been officially a month. He lives on the other end of the province. They met through a mutual friend, and spent 4-5 evenings together at the beginning of December when he was in town for some courses. He’s got days off coming up. 6 of them. He’ll be coming through our town, to head down to his hometown south of here. Now, apparently he’s talking about not stopping to see her. Because she has a little bit of a cold. He frequently ignores her text messages for a day or two at a time. He doesn’t put much effort into communicating with her when he does answer them. He dances around questions she asks him… Basically he’s already pulling off stunts and avoidance tactics like Joel did at the end of our relationship. After 5 years. It infuriates me that she complains to me about him, but when I make points like "it sounds like he’s being lazy, he doesn’t care that much, or _________ is a dick move" she then comes back with "oh its not like that. I’m head over heels for him."

Also, I know that a good portion of her denial has to do with the fact that she’s absolutely petrified that shes going to die alone.

Yeah, Joel and I failed, but there was still a honeymoon phase in our relationship. And for the first year or two, he did put in significant effort. He lived in the same town this guy does, but he only got 3 days off of work, every two weeks. So, every two weeks, he would drive 6.5 hours down to see me for about a day and a half, and then drive 6.5 hours back up north to work. He would talk to me every day in some way. He didn’t ignore my communication for days on end. If there was a reason, like he was going to be out of cell service with no internet for a day or two, he’d tell me beforehand so I knew to not expect immediate responses.

I know relationships are work, but when you’ve only been together a month, it shouldn’t be this shitty already. You shouldn’t be questioning whether or not he really wants to see you. There should be a honeymoon period where you both have stars in your eyes, you talk constantly, and you make every effort to spend any amount of free time you have together. Even as terribly matched as Joel and I were, we still had that. And it lasted more than a week. I’d have to go back and read my entries from back then, but if I had to guess I’d say it lasted almost the first two years for us. Things started to kinda disintegrate after we moved in together, which was either just after or just before our two year anniversary.

Anyway, /end rant. I just pisses me off to no end to watch someone treat my friend like that, and watch her put up with it, and straight up deny the truth. I’m not trying to be malicious and sabotage her relationships, I try to be fairly gentle, but still honest about what I think about it. And she straight up denies it.

Grrr.