Forgetting shit doesn’t = you have a brain tumor!!

There is a new "drama" today on the CFMIL front. joy joy happy joy joy.

A little background… She is definitely a hypochondriac. Almost anything that anyone else gets wrong with them she is positive she also has or is developing. She also has nothing else in her life to do so she spends her time worrying about things that don’t need to be worried about. Her health being one of those things. She is constantly looking for things to be wrong with her. Honestly, I am legitimately in worse health than she is but she would never hear of that. She also has an "invalid complex". She convinces herself that she is too old, too sick, too whatever to do anything (unless it’s something she wants to do, then she finds a way — after trying to guilt everyone else to do it for her, that is). She has brainwashed her 27 year old son (and when BF lived there, he was under the spell too) to get her a fork from the kitchen if she needs one, to talk to the landlord instead of her, to basically dote on her hand and foot like she is some seriously ill patient. It makes my skin crawl. I have grown up around women who would rather do almost anything than ask for help unless it is absolutely last resort necessary. The problem with people in my family is that they don’t ask for help as often as they should. Especially the women. I just can’t stand it that my CFMIL plays it like she’s helpless. She is JUST as smart and capable as anyone else and she CAN do the stuff if she wants to or is left with no other choice so there is proof that she’s not disabled — she just chooses not to. *sigh* whatever. it’s the way she was raised. it’s all she knows. she doesn’t know how to get her way any differently. it’s just the way she is. but it makes me wanna puke.

ANYWAY, so she’s always telling the doctor she "needs" various tests. And he always sends her to them, just to ease her mind and get her off his back. This is one of the reasons I stopped seeing the same family doctor – and because he LOST my file. But that’s another story… So, the latest test she decided she needed was an MRI of her brain. She said she’s always forgetting stuff and always forgetting words and blah blah blah. I’m like, lady, you’re almost 60 – what do you expect?? Forgetting shit doesn’t mean you have a brain tumor!! Anyway, she told us she was getting an MRI and I dismissed it because she’s just a psycho.

Well, today she called to leave BF a message ("I know you’re at work BF but…" — didn’t even acknowledge that this is my phone number too) and it was obvious she was trying very hard not to cry but at the same time still show how upset she really was. (She has a bit of a martyr complex too, in case you were wondering). She got the results of her MRI today that they saw two masses/lumps at the back of her throat/neck. They said they want her to go for a CAT scan to take a better look (correct me if I’m wrong but I thought an MRI was the clearest, most detailed scan you could get…). They say it could be cysts and if it is they probably won’t do much but if they can’t tell or if it isn’t cysts then they will want to do a biopsy. "I’m not going there yet but…" Yeah. Sure.

Of course I hope she’s fine. Let’s get that out of the way. I never wish illness or harm on anyone. I hope she’s fine because I know what hell is in store for us if she isn’t fine. I hope she’s fine because I know it will devastate BF to have his last living parent die. I personally think everyone will be better off with her not around – which is why we’re seriously thinking about moving far far away in the spring – but I certainly don’t wish her illness or harm or death.

I’m just annoyed for a couple personal reasons. And I know I’m getting ahead of myself but this is the place for it so here it goes…

First, if she gets REALLY sick or has something SERIOUSLY wrong with her, it will be very hard for BF to up and move six hours away. That will be a pisser. I really think we NEED to move to get away from the negativity. Dr. Oz just said on Oprah today that the key to longevity and happiness is getting rid of the toxic people in your life — and I fully believe that. Once I got rid of all the thorns of my high school experience I had a wonderful time. Also, he said that being around like-minded people makes you feel supported and loved. We are definitely not around like-minded people; in fact, they tell us that our opinions are just stupid. When we say that they don’t have to agree with us, that they just have to respect us by agreeing to disagree they say that’s ridiculous. It just irks me that, even though she doesn’t know we’re thinking about moving yet, she may find away to prevent us from doing it, to delay what WE want even longer.

Second and more immediately… Yesterday she asked BF if we would come down this weekend to visit them. They are about 20 mins away so this is not too big a deal in itself but BF told her he would tell her tonight whether we/he would or not. We decided shortly afterward that we have way too much to do this weekend to go there – we have plans to go to the Santa parade, decorate our apartment, bake cookies, finish the one website we’re working on and hopefully deliver it. CFMIL will be fully expecting that he/we come down there this weekend to spend time with her because she could be dying. We should put everything else on hold because she might have a big health problem. Yes, she can expect what she wants and we won’t go just because of that — the problem will be the hissy fit she throws because BF won’t do what she wants. We’re getting better at not listening to the fits; I’m not really worried about that. I guess I’m just really REALLY annoyed that they happen at all. Man, I want to tell her to stuff it.

Cuz really, she’s huge. She is much larger in size than me. She eats WAY more poorly than me — she never cooks a homemade meal; it’s always whatever is fastest or fast food. All they drink is regular pop. She will even get the restaurant downstairs to put food on a tab if she doesn’t feel like cooking. (They don’t have much money so this is a big deal). My first thought is thyroid. Another reason I don’t trust her doctor is because IF he’s done her bloodwork her levels are apparently normal. I don’t understand how she can’t have diabetes, heart disease, plaque in her arteries, high cholesterol… or a problem with one of her glands to make her so big that hasn’t been detected yet. There is no way you can eat like her and do nothing all day like her (and not exercise at all) and have NOTHING wrong (yet she’s still so ill she has to be on disability assistance mind you). *sigh*

My brother had cysts in his neck that were nothing and he actually DOES have a thyroid problem (makes him skinny, the little bastard). Hell, *** I *** had a cyst at the base of my skull that was nothing. Maybe the spots on the MRI are her common sense trying to escape? That would explain so much. hehe I know!! They’re the leak where reality seeps out!!

So anyway, I’m waiting for BF to get home from work to tell him this. He will be a little more worried abou this than he was about the aunt fiasco – but not overly worried, at least not yet – and that wouldn’t have been fair of me to lay on him at work. Although I’m sure that’s why she called to tell the answer

ing machine so that I would tell him and he would call her and be all worried about her. HA.

I’m sure it’s just cysts but it would be just our luck that it’s worse. UGH. And I don’t care if saying that makes me an awful person to any of you who are reading this. She doesn’t care for our well-being so we have to.

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This morning I woke up feeling like poop. I was really nauseous. I know it’s because I haven’t been eating as well as I should the past few days. I had way too much salt last night when I put this new popcorn shake on my popcorn snack. I have to say that it wasn’t even yummy enough to be worth it. So, I downed about 6 glasses of water and went back to bed and now I feel pretty good!

On the news today they have been discussing these wind turbines that they want to put out in the water near Toronto. I have to say that I was directly under one of those things AND in a field of them when we were in PEI a couple summers ago. A whole field of these HUGE, silently moving things is very, very eery. Makes you feel like they’re signalling to the aliens that it’s almost time to come down and lazer beam us all. But I do love what they do and represent. It would be awesome not to be reliant on unrenewable resources. At first, I was a bit torn because the place they want to put them is quite a beautiful stretch of land and it was said that the view would be ruined, etc etc etc. Then I learned that they intend to put them up 2km OUT in the water!! who the hell can say something 2km away is an eyesore?? Ridiculous. I say, put the things up!!! Put them up now!! And all of ya, shut yer yaps!

Brooke Burke will win Dancing with the Stars tonight. Lance had a chance until that hip hop freestyle last night. It was good but definitely not the right thing. Makes me sad.

And I think that’s it for me…

Except that I’m really anxious for pseudo to update!! I want to hear how things are going with you missy!!!!!!