The Myth of Leisure Time

thank you for your helpful note. we had a big talk last night, and talked out our fears and concerns and even about our commitment. I’m hypersensitive to the anger thing, but also think it was time, and smart, to tell him this is not a repeat pattern I’m willing to watch form. I did the supportive, understanding girlfriend thing already. And I hope it makes sense that I put my foot down and said this cant continue to have me as the target. I also acknowledged that he does have control of his anger – his own anger scares him and I think it was important to show him that he doesnt get mean and dirty at all, and that he is capable of choosing where he will target his anger. he is hurt to realize that this threatens my trust and safety, and will avoid it at all costs. I hope I’m handling this well. it scared us to see the risk of loss of each other, we are willing to work together. it was an intense night. but it feels right that we’re talking about this and resolving it now.