~Resting Place

We buried our son in more of a secluded area. And about 15 or so miles up the road. I didn’t drive Freeway and I wouldn’t drive the back roads so I just didn’t get to the Grave Site. Plus Brian and I were of the Mind that Nathan is not in that Grave. Just the Vessel in which his Soul once possessed. The one time we did go there it was awkward, but we wanted to see how the Headstone turned out. I can’t know for sure what I might of done had he been Buried in our town. Maybe I would of gone there more often and maybe not.

This woman (whom I’ll call (P) whom I wrote about who’s 9 y/o was killed September 24,00… Well we were talking via E-mail. She said that she had been to her Son’s Resting Place. I told her that I had been to my son’s very few times. I told her that I am sort of Jealous of these people who just Deck Out their Loved One’s Spot. I also said that I wonder what people think as they walk by this Site that is never seemingly to be visited. (P) wrote me back and said she would go visit Nathan.

I thought that was incredibly Sweet! She doesn’t even know me and she just lost her own son and she wants to do this for me? She said she would go on November 4th. That she would be taking a Friend with her, and she would bring something to leave. I asked her to tell me if any Grass has grown (but probably not cause this place has a Natural look) And I wanted to know if the Headstone was still intact…

A few days Prior I was talking with my SIL in Colorado and she said that my Niece who is (21) had been to *See* Nathan 2 weeks prior and that there was two Angels on either side of the Head Stone.. Oh that brought tears to my eyes to hear that. I have no clue who it is who is going there, infact I didn’t know if anyone did.. Or maybe someone who comes to visit another Site left those Angels there… Well whoever it is.. Wow that is just so sweet!

(P) did go *visit* Nathan on that Saturday, and left two Pinwheels on either side and a Cross. And she told me about the Angels. (I had not told her about the Angels).. She took Pictures. Just what a sweet Gesture to do. At first I didn’t care if she took any Pictures but then after she went I was glad she had took pictures.

I got those Pictures this week. I smiled big as I saw the Envelope in the Mailbox. I took the Envelope to the 3rd Bedroom, where all of Nathan’s stuff is. There is a picture of the Entrance to the Cemetery, (ya know I would of never thought of taking a picture of that). And a Picture of Nathan’s Grave site. There are like 3 Ceramic Angels and a White Ceramic Cross, and these two huge colorful Pinwheels. There is also Grass of sorts all around the Headstone and it’s still intact.

I have added these Pictures to the Binder thing I have about Nathan. (P) said that in the Spring she will also go to Nathan’s Middle School and take a Picture of the Memorial Garden they made for ..In Memory of him and 2 other 7th graders that died that year. I just never went to see it.. couldn’t bring myself to go there again.

A friend online was talking about wouldn’t it be nice to have a Web Cam looking at your Loved one’s Resting Place. For those who live a distance away and can’t get there could see the changing seasons there. I know sounds a Bit Morbid.. and then again, maybe not.