Story in process
My daughter and my identical twin grandsons.
Pete is in the process of getting his ex-girlfriend out of his house. She keeps saying if he throws her out she will call the sheriff and tell them he beat her up. He doesn’t want to go to jail and they have been in a stalemate. When he was visiting me he said maybe going to jail would be better than living with her. Today she was coming back from her cottage and when she flys out to see her daughter he is changing the house locks. He will tell her she can make an appointment to get the rest of her stuff. She has moved most of her things out already. She has talked openly to other guys and gone to the bars and she gets picked up by these guys who call her the next day. She is mostly there because she doesn’t have to pay utilities.
Stand by for the rest of the story,
Who is Pete? Is Pete trying to be with your daughter?
Not that you asked, but in my state, although it remains unlawful to record a conversation that one can ‘reasonably assume to be private’ ie: in your home, without the consent of both parties, I did manage to find a loophole that states that if a person believes that there is a crime being committed against them or about to be committed against them, only then may they lawfully record another person without their consent in ‘private’.
If what Pete is saying is to be believed as truth, and the ‘ex girlfriend’ is not in fact getting abused, then I would strongly urge Pete to begin recording their conversations and interactions, and keep and document every single text message, email and phone call — and store them in a place aside from his phone or computer! (That means sending all that documentation to a trusted friend or relative whom the ex-girlfriend is not accessible to.) But I would also urge you to do the necessary research about the laws regarding private surveillance that apply in your jurisdiction.
I probably won’t remember to follow up on this, not because I’m an asshole, but because my short term memory has begun it’s declination into what is almost certainly the early onset of Parkinson’s disease, perhaps dementia or if I’m in for a ton of fun, both! So I wish you and Pete all the best of luck in the case I do forget to follow up.
And by Sam Elliot’s glorious mustache, my friend, it’s not a hard sell that those children belong to that woman. They look just like her. And I’m quite envious. When I go out with my children in tow, I look to be no more of a relation than the nanny. (I am brunette with brown/green eyes and my children all have “WOW THAT’S BLONDE!” hair and blue eyes. And they don’t share the same father!) HA!
But in seriousness, Pete is in trouble if the cards they play aren’t strategic and meticulous. I wish you both the best of luck, and send my love.
Love & Respect,
Your Friend,
Odd Petunia
@odd-petunia
Pete is my bf. My daughter a
is with her twins are adopted .
with Pete I feel like I am the mistress even though he’s not Married. I need more respect and I am going to start demanding more respect.
@mankiller26 Ohhhhhh! Okay, this makes sense! And hallelujah, boys and girls, I freaking remembered to check back in on this! Go me!
But okay, so Pete is your significant other and he’s currently residing with his ex because he feels trapped by her threats. Boy, does that put you in a messed up position, huh? I can’t imagine the crazy range of emotions you must be experiencing… And I’m sure it goes up and down like a damn roller coaster all too often.
So, I’m not in the business of telling others what to do, as I can hardly manage to tell myself what to do, but in this case, I’m going to say that hell yes, you should demand respect. You should have that standard for yourself always, on every day, in every circumstance and in every scenario. When you’re up, when you’re down, when you’re good, when you’ve screwed up, it doesn’t matter. You are always worthy and deserving of respect. And if you don’t respect yourself, I promise that everyone else will follow suit.
This is how I do it, not that you asked… Even if it’s inexpensive, but looks or feels nice, a matched set of bra and panties that make you feel sexy goes on underneath everything. Even sweats. Dressed up nice? Nice bra and panties. Scrubbin’ and sitting on the couch all day? Nice bra and panties. Everyday clothes? You guessed it. Nice bra and panties. When you dress in the morning, and you put on underwear that make you feel sexy, whether you realize it or not, you will behave in a way that reflects how you feel. ie: You’ll walk with a bit more pep in your step, you’ll stand up straighter, you’ll exude real confidence. And everything else around you that you do or interact with will all take away from that. Confidence is empowering. It’s sexy. And it’s contagious.
So get yourself some sexy underbits, and remind yourself that the situation you’re dealing with is not ideal but if you aren’t getting the respect you need from it, that you are perfectly capable of taking yourself elsewhere, where you are respected.
Your daughter and grandlings are absolutely beautiful. You must be so proud!
L&R,
O.P.
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